My family will never accept that I REALLY DO NEED THERAPY

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raisedbyignorance
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23 Jun 2009, 7:44 pm

These days the only way to convince then that I need therapy is if I go on a killing spree or try to kill myself. I can't kill myself because people are idiots who would NEVER learn a thing from my suicide, same with going off and killing people (not that I would anyway...)

But it's f**king clear in their faces that I am severly depressed, angry, unmotivated, and refusing to associate myself with the world. Thousands of people go to therapy everyday for much less than that.

The only reason I was able to get counseling the first time was because my high school counselor pressured my parents to. And when I was away at college I could go to therapy at the college hospital or counseling center all I wanted and my family wouldn't know.

My mom doesn't take any of it seriously. After nearly every session when I had counseling in high school, my mom would DEMAND to know what I talked with her about as if ANY of it was her business. My dad is a major budgetholic. He refuses to waste any money on something he thinks its a bunch of crock.

Granted my college counselors made some great errors in the way they counseled me. Then again they have to deal with various college students of various issues so it's hard for them to treat a suicidal person differently from a person suffering from standard anxiety.

This p*sses me off. end rant



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23 Jun 2009, 9:33 pm

Crud... I have no idea what else to say :oops:.


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23 Jun 2009, 9:46 pm

raisedbyignorance wrote:
These days the only way to convince then that I need therapy is if I go on a killing spree or try to kill myself. I can't kill myself because people are idiots who would NEVER learn a thing from my suicide, same with going off and killing people (not that I would anyway...)

But it's f**king clear in their faces that I am severly depressed, angry, unmotivated, and refusing to associate myself with the world. Thousands of people go to therapy everyday for much less than that.

The only reason I was able to get counseling the first time was because my high school counselor pressured my parents to. And when I was away at college I could go to therapy at the college hospital or counseling center all I wanted and my family wouldn't know.

My mom doesn't take any of it seriously. After nearly every session when I had counseling in high school, my mom would DEMAND to know what I talked with her about as if ANY of it was her business. My dad is a major budgetholic. He refuses to waste any money on something he thinks its a bunch of crock.

Granted my college counselors made some great errors in the way they counseled me. Then again they have to deal with various college students of various issues so it's hard for them to treat a suicidal person differently from a person suffering from standard anxiety.

This p*sses me off. end rant

I can't help but notice how your parents sound exactly the same as mine!

It is frustrating s**t that I too have to put up with every single day. They will never accept that there is anything medically/mentally wrong with me, just the fact that I am "me".


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23 Jun 2009, 9:53 pm

I don't know what to say except I hope you can get your parents' support. I have been through therapy for parenting and spouse issues. I am 44 years old. My wife sounded against the therapy for me at first. But, at the request of a social worker, she attended a therapy session with me. The therapist impressed her greatly and she then became supportive of my therapy. So, if somehow you could get a really good therapist and then the therapist speak to your parents, then maybe, you could get their support.


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23 Jun 2009, 10:25 pm

I kind of understand most people I've dealt with are A)Psychiatrist (advice oh just be yourself/take X pill.) :-( (You don't have Asperger's since there's no pill for it and this is a place that gives pills THAT was the response I got from my current one) B)Therapist (Mostly dealt with family issue and once again Oh just go on with life) etc. What I need is the following

Them:Wow your behavior has upset family,friends,students,teachers,coworkers,bosses and you are worried if you don't fix your behaivor you'll continue to have bad behavior.

Me: Yes (they then follow by dealing with the category issue NOT OH TAKE A PILL!! !! !



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24 Jun 2009, 12:02 am

This is sad. I'm sorry. Is it your parents you are mostly angry about, or are there other issues too?



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24 Jun 2009, 11:11 am

I too am sorry. I was lucky enough to get help from age 5. My parents immediately noticed that something was wrong so they did something to fix it and today at 32 I haven't been to or needed therapy in almost 12 years.


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24 Jun 2009, 7:09 pm

I'm sorry to hear that. I more or less know the feeling; my parents don't believe I have any non-normal issues. They sound kind of like yours, actually. I hope things get better for you.



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26 Jun 2009, 2:08 am

Because you are an adult, you can probably get some mental health counseling from some sort of social services in the community especially if you are debilitated (unable to work) because of these problems. I don't really know for sure but I am looking into these things right now because I have never had any sort of therapy and it has become quite evident that I need therapy too, badly.



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26 Jun 2009, 2:27 am

Counselling should be free for law abiding citizens.Its free for those in prison, so why cant it be free for those who dont break the law....I guess the only way one can get free unlimited counselling is if they commit a crime and go to jail.


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28 Jun 2009, 9:46 pm

Tory_canuck wrote:
Counselling should be free for law abiding citizens.Its free for those in prison, so why cant it be free for those who dont break the law....I guess the only way one can get free unlimited counselling is if they commit a crime and go to jail.


That was exactly the point I was trying to make in another post I wrote a month back. :P

I mean most counselors suck anyway. Why should they even be paid as much as they do?



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30 Jun 2009, 3:56 pm

I threatened to go on a killing spree online too. It got me into Cumberland for eight days