Living on your own

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Hi, I'm going to be living on my own possibly next month so I want wondering if someone can tell me their experiences. It must be scary, esspecially society today.

how will you pay?

in my case welfare pays my rent so its significantly less stressful than it woulda been under normal circumstances i guess. i get to be at home, lock my door, and relax

It can be lonely, but it can be the best fun not to have to manage flatmates.
You just need to make sure you don't get isolated

of all my flats, what you describe was the best. a small ex-hotel, where each room was a flat. shared kitchens, so i was in total isolation behind a METAL DOOR (m-hm!) for the most part + i was forced to greet some overly social turks and algerians inhabiting the rest of the building every day in the kitchen "EEEY PIZZA AGAIN!? YOU LIKE PIZZA A LOT EH! YOU LOOOOVE PIZZA!! !" "yes, yes, heheh... "
"EY YOU GET ANGRY AT NIGHT?!?"

(my internet was horrible... )

I'm very close to getting my appartment. I worry about crime and police not listening if something would have happend but my parents told me that the appartments that I'm going to be living at is part of a nice neighborhood so hopefally nothing will go wrong.

Social life is something that I got to work on, but I feel that I can't find friends if I don't have a car or a job to pay car insurace off.

you live in a very... scary country or what? :S

you shouldnt be default-worried about crime, of all things that could go wrong

faulty electricity! a joke of an internet service OR a bunch of students hogging all the shared bandwidth day and night!

From what I know, living on your own can be great and it can be disastrous, depending on many different aspects. I myself was not successful at living on my own, because of isolation, not being able to manage all my duties, and generally being severely overloaded by all that it took from me to live independently.

One of the most important things I would recommend is to try to work on developing a support system of people whom you can come over to when you're isolated or who could help you manage your duties. Are you going to live relatively close to family or other people you know, so that you won't be left completely to your own resources?

No one to bug you in your home except neighbors. You can come home to your own mess, not to someone elses. You can live by your own standards and no one to tell you what to do. The only hardest part is cooking but there is canned food out there and food out there you don't need to cook to eat and there are TV dinners. Just throw in the microwave to heat up and you're done. I can cook hamburgers and fries and pasta.

I live on my own. My family was rather insistent on that point, and I had horrible experiences with flatmates, roommates, housemates, and just mates in general.

A good system for organizing bills and household tasks helps me, and having an environment that is precisely to my liking justifies the effort. Dealing with faulty electricity or plumbing, naughty neighbors, or other troubles took me lots of patience and practice, and is still difficult but worth the effort. But I should mention that I have no alternative; i.e.: no family or friends who would give me a home.

If socializing and contact with people in meatspace is a concern, find local groups through MeetUp.com or other online services, take classes if you can afford them, join a local club for an activity you like. Since I'm "asocial", others here can probably offer better ideas about socialization. The concept is difficult for me to grasp.

Statistically, crime and the police are probably never going to enter your life. However, I have dealt with both. The police were very helpful and supportive, and took care of the problem efficiently.