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I just moved back in with my parents, the situation with my roomates has completely gone to hell. I didn't see it ending up like this but I have a lot of stuff to just get out of my system.

I'm a complete pothead, I just find it easier to focus on my studying and I even have the motivation to excerscise when I'm on it. I mean it doesn't work when I just try to stay on it, but I really get the boost when I need it. My roomate was a pretty cool guy about it, he'd let me smoke it downstairs and I never bothered him.

One week, I was just making way too many self discoveries, I was coming up with all kinds of off the wall theories and I really bothered him with the stuff I was saying (I wasn't making any threats, but I just didn't make a lot of sense according to him), anyway, he decided to cut me off from my habit and I really can't force a guy to make a decision about what goes on in his own house.

I still have my Zoloft to keep me in balance anyway. But it gets really hard to focus sometimes and I have to do a lot of brainstorming just to do simple things sometimes. I paid $300 in rent plus some grocery expenses, this month he asked for $2000 because of a rising interest rate. I had to borrow some money to get him that and he promised to return it to me. He asked for another $2000 this month and I just told him outright that I wasn't giving him anything until he changed his mind on my pot use. It might sound like too much to ask for, but it is decriminalized over here and $2000 a month is a lot of money to go giving to someone who won't even go out on qa limb for you.

He told me to get the f**k out and I snapped to it, I started piling my stuff in the front of the house and noticed some of my items missing along the way. At one point he tried to keep me from taking my controller from the house and ordered me out point blank. I refused and he attacked me. I smashed his head against the wall and he called the cops on me, luckily I told them I was just trying to get out with all my stuff and I didn't start the fight. I had to leave the house, but I was able to take my valubles with me and they seemed to understand where I was coming from.

I'm winding down now and getting some sleep, I have a few VA appointments next month and I should be all set to move to colorado with a different roomate. I hope I don't end up with the trouble I found over here, has anyone else been in a roomate feud like this? If you had the patience to read this far, I could really use some advice, I'm not afraid of anyone telling me where I'm messing up, I deal with criticism better than I used to, I just don't want this ever happening again.

I guess the red flags would start waving for me at the $2000. That sounds bogus to me. I think he was up to something. I guess at that point I would have told him I couldn't afford that and that I would be looking for a new place. In other words recognize something is off sooner and get yourself out of the situation before it comes to confrontation level.

I have feuded with pretty much every roommate I ever had, they were all before I was diagnosed, sometimes it was my fault being unreaqlistic about what they should do. I never used drugs.

Well, every sign points to them being unreasonable for demanding more money, and I'm unreasonable for expecting them to bend the rules just because I pay them lots of money. I explained the situation to my future roomate and we have a common ground on the issue. Thanks for hearing me out, it helps to get the insider opinion.

That is too bad that has happened. I would be suspicious about the money because it sounds to me that he was stealing the money for "other" purposes and not the rent. Did he give you the money back at least. It is very hard for us Aspies to be fooled like that because we are so gullible and people could say anything to get us to agree. That fact that he hiked it so high was one thing, then he asked for another $2000 for an apartment, that is $4000 and I would have right then and there questioned it. I hope all goes well for you in Colorado.

Drama is part of my daily life, as I still have the mindset of a person in their midteens.

Right now they're in the process of excusing their way out of my money, they sound so convinced of themselves that I have a hard time doubting them, but I'm not doing any more compromising for these people, they get ruthless when you give them an inch.

I was lucky enough to be familiar with one of the officers on the scene (I'm a late night wanderer sometimes), as long as you state facts only (even the bad ones) and leave the opinions to a minimum, they're understanding. They told me that they see a lot of these situations and they've already had an encounter with them in the past.

I don't have a problem letting them know that I was after an illegal substance, I'd rather them find out from me than find out from them (if they haven't already spilled that part to them). I'm going down tomorrow to get the rest of my stuff, I'm keeping my fingers crossed. Thanks again for the input, I feel like I can explain my part a little better.

Not exactly clear on the facts of your issue but ostensibly---you just GAVE this jerk $2000 and don't really care if you get it back?? If I understand correctly, you should take it to Small Claims Court and try to get your money back. What about the portion of the $2000 you said you had to borrow? How are you going to pay that back? This jerk shouldn't get a $2000 gift for the way he treated you! Do you think he should get away with it? Also from what the police said---you aren't the first person they scammed.

Well, I'm making the trip today, wish me luck. Also I might've misworded something, the police were refering to domestic disputes, not scams (but they're probably sensing one too, after all everyone who posts is calling bs on $2000). I'll get as much as I can back at this point.

And the verdict is in, they kept what they felt like keeping, they told me it was to cover their expenses, $4000 is what they'd ask to get from me from a small claims court (to undo my paint job) and they aren't going to budge. Depending on how much of my stuff comes up missing, I'll go and call their little bluff. I'm feeling overly assertive at this point and I have them to thank for it.