My brother never supports me, and makes me feel bad

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I'm crying right now. This is why I never want to tell him things. I'm even afraid to tell my mother some things because she might tell him.

For instance the other day, I was home alone with him. I found online an article about a woman who is selling a type of unique artwork. I've been doing that for years, and I was a little surprised someone else was doing it, and making money off of it. I told my brother how I was feeling and he said "You're probably not the only person to ever think of that, so it doesn't even matter." really nastily.

For some reason, a few minutes ago, while making dinner, I decided to tell him one of my goals. I was thinking about it, and feeling really good about it. My goal is to move to oklahoma to be near my boyfriend, in the next few years. I have done research and have found some great apartments in the area. I told my brother about this, saying I was planning on moving to oklahoma next year, or the year after. He said in an extremely condescending tone, as he always does "Okay." and I said "I am. I already have found some good apartments." and he says "insert name of my boyfriend here isn't 18 yet!" and I said, "what does that have to do with it." and he says "so you can't do it." and I said "Yes I can!" and he literally laughed in my face and said "you couldn't live on your own!" all while laughing at me. and he wasn't joking. he was using a really nasty tone.

he doesn't believe in me. he made me feel really terrible. he makes me feel awful. It's like he thinks bcause h's older, and he gos to college, and he can drive, and he has tons of friends, that he's better than me.

I can do whatever I want to do. I'm going to learn to drive this summer/fall, but if I told him that he's probably say I couldn't do it.

He really made me feel like s**t, and I wound up crying and telling my mom that I'm tired of him not believing in me. She said that I can do whatever I want to do, but she thinks it might take a little longer than that. She said I can do my bst, and make it even when people laugh in my face.

Sh called my brother up to talk about it, and I heard him talking really nastily in her bedroom. I can only imagine he was making me look like fool, because I heard him "imitating" me me in there. It's what he always pretends i'm like to make himself look better.


I CAN DO WHATEVER I DAMN PLEASE! I have a job, I may work for my parents business, and not have as many hours as he does at his fancy job, but I can do whatever I want! and I am!


I've had an extremely tough time trying to get to level of people my age, whatever that age has been. in the past year tings have really gone amazing for me, and They *will* continue to do so! I am learning to do things just like other people. I can even call people on the phone and talk, which I couldn't do before. I can do many things, and I am going to get my own apartment and live on *MY OWN* whether he believes in me or not! I might even check out some of them when I go to Oklahoma next month.

Hugs and opinions would be greatly appreciated.

If you're one for taking revenge, there's many things you could do. If not, then just stop talking to him.

Just a quick question. Why is your brothers approval so important? I know I lived my whole life, trying to gain the approval of my father. No matter how hard I tried he would never see any good in me. Growing up this destroyed me mentally. But now as an adult I realise that I don't need his approval, in fact if it's someone who likes to knock me down, well, I don't want his approval.

It seems like the two of us are the same. We seem to need an o.k or a thumbs up from someone 'superior' in order to believe in ourselves that we can do it. If this approval is not forthcoming, we doubt our ability to achieve what we want.

I say your brother is 'superior' in the sense that you look up to him given his age and achievements. But when you come to think of it, despite this no one is 'superior' to you.

Just believe in your self. You don't need anyones approval.

Come here darling.

Brothers can be terrible - and not for the best.
Ignore yours and learn what you have to learn, do what you have to do.
It's none of his business, that is yours (affairs).

I get the impression he believes you do not really have any problems, and that you are exaggerating/using your asperger's to explain away your laziness or unwillingness to conform. He comes across as being contemptful of you, it's probably best that you don't try to have a relationship with him.

Don't care about him, you have hundreds of brothers and sisters here that knows you're a great person.
Some people is beyond hope of improvement, feel sorry for them and avoid them in your life, they are only sources of pain and unhappiness.

If you feel that you want to share these little things that makes you happy, talk to us (atleast me), I allways likes to hear those things.

Mind hugs to you my distant sis, keep up your good work.

At least you have a job, unlike me, so you're more likely to get somewhere and rub his smug little face in it.