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Greentea
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12 Jul 2009, 7:21 pm

I wish it was my bosses and colleagues who had to diagnose me, so I'd get social benefits. The way things are, the specialists rule out AS because I'm too normal, and the job market rejects me because I'm too abnormal. So what do I do? End up in the streets? I just can't take this anymore.


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12 Jul 2009, 7:47 pm

Emigrate? :lol:
Grow orchids...

Maximize your stress levels til you are barely functional, than get an evaluation. I just hope it's AS they come up with... :wink:



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12 Jul 2009, 9:06 pm

*Grunt of acknowledgment*

Let's start a permanent tent city.
Someplace warm. And quiet.



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12 Jul 2009, 9:12 pm

yeah people will deny till they're 'blue in the face' that there's anything 'wrong' with you or that you get treated differently - but it's so obvious that you are. the world of work enjoys having an underclass who are useful as scapegoats, 'patsies' and people who aren't much competition in terms of game playing - it makes them look good!



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13 Jul 2009, 5:54 am

I think the problem is sometimes it's not the aspergers making the problems for an individual, sometimes it's anxiety issues and whatnot. You can only get diagnosed with something if they think it's causing your problems.



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13 Jul 2009, 8:03 am

Hang in there greentea. I'm sure things will turn out for the best. Just be patient and persevere. I get told I'm normal too. But I suppose deep down I feel and know I'm different and this has caused me a multitude of problems.



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20 Jul 2009, 1:20 am

I've never been told I was normal. I'm not sure how I'd react if someone said that. I suppose I'd wonder about the person saying it.

I've only gotten jobs when:

1. I was the only applicant and the employer absolutely had to hire someone immediately.
2. I was in a situation in which everyone was hired.

Long ago I discovered I could make enough money to live on by freelancing. I'm a geek with a good memory, and my life is very low cost, so I've managed thusfar. Having the official diagnosis may not make as much a difference as you think. Finding a good work situation, whatever that may be, will make more of a difference.

And having lived for months in a tent, I can say with confidence it has its downsides, at least if you have sensory issues.