I'm so tired of this

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It happened again. I meet nice gals who like me the only problem is that only for about a month, tops and then i'm back to beign alone again. The girl I was interested in just told me flat out shes more interested in a Arab guy she meet in a bloody hookah bar ( I met him and the guy is a certifiable jackass whos not interested in her as anything other a quick lay) and she said she wanted to be friends, i was ok with that so we talked alot fo facebook because we are both very bussy with work and such but now shes even stoped that and shes cut me out of her life. I'm depressed and lonley and it always ends this way. I meet a gal I like, they get to know me and boom i'm out in the cold again. I'm so tired of the only people who care about me being relatives. I'm not a bad guy, i'm getting my advanced degree in histroy, I can hold a job, i'm considered to be a nice and even funny guy but no one ever stays. Aspergers has left me out in the cold and this time its pushing me back into the shadows. I reach out, get burned and fall back into lonly isolation until I cant take the pain anymore and the cycle repeats itself. I'm tired of this cycle and if I dont escape soon I don't know what i'll do.

I'm sick of playing these games, I'm tired of the girls I meet not caring a whit about me, and I'm especialy tired of being passed over for absolute jerks just because i'm a nice guy with one little problem. I'm willing to try to bend and get help and even to open up to people but no one seems willing to reach me so here I am.

I don't usually respond to these, but in this case I hear you, bro. Happened to me often. For me, I only met with success when I started looking for the "super smart" ones. They can understand you better than anyone else.

Analyze your "target profile". Are you after supermodel quality only? Do you want the "full monty" of beauty, brains, career, and future aspirations? Are you seeking someone to impress peers or are you looking for someone for the long haul? Be honest. You don't have anything to prove here and it is okay to speak your mind in The Haven.

Thanks for replying, I'm not after a supermodel, I've played that game and lost. Many of the women I date dont even let me get passed the first date they just tell me there not interested, and I appriciate that kind fo honesty. What drives me crazy is when they play along utill they get a better offer. I really am looking for the long haul not someone too show off. I'd like someone attractive who's normal looking. I only have two restrictions, i'm not attracted to black girls (nothing wrong with them I just dont find them attractive) and I want a christian girl who can share my faith. i'm willing to make it work and go see a shrink for help with my aspergers. I don't cheat, smoke or do any kind of drugs. The only remotly dangrous thing I own is a collection of classic firearms and a 16th centruy Katana.

The last one was a nice girl who had learned two languages and was cute but not super hot. She had a sharp mind and we were friends before (She is a member of my church) but shes obsessed with a certian kind of man (Arabs in this case) as were the others. I guess a white looking Native American isn't exotic enough for her. Frankly it hurts to be dumped by her, I really opened up for her and let her in because she and I were clicking (hell her own parents though I and her made a great match) and she dropped me the second the possibility came along to live some araban nights fantasy. The worst part of this all is the guy she wants to be with isn't interested in her. She actually told me he isnt really interested in a long term relationship with her just after she dumped me. i just dont get it: I have a job (ok not a great one but it pays the bills while i'm in grad school), I've no criminal record of any kind, i'm a kind guy who wont even hurt a fly but time and again i'm the one who get trashed in favor of some silly fantasy straight out a pre-teen romance novel.