Dinner Time :(

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I hate my parents for this. Sure dinner is importaint so it can keep your body full of engery and good health but THEY FORCE me to eat at the table with them at the same time. And my Step Mother wants to talk about my personal life or things that I need to work on about 5 times in a row. She would repete herself because she think that helps Asperger's way of thinking. I don't know. I'm 90% introverted at the Dinner Table now, I'm working on a goal of not asking if I should clean the table and be polite like that. I have feeling guilty over my hatred to their personalites. I wished that I can care less and not worry about them being angry with me even though I can't relate to them period.

I know what you mean. I'm lucky in that I am allowed to eat in my room most of the time, but on Sundays I have to eat at the table. When I ask what's the point, they say, "Because it's nice to eat together." (What the hell kind of word is "nice", anyway? Every teacher I've ever had forbids the use of this silly inadequate word.) I can't think of a less "nice" way to eat than being forced to sit with a bunch of people I can't stand and who yell at me for answering "no" when they ask if I want some potatoes.

In my world, dinner is dinner, not a social event.

Family dinners are a nightmare for Aspies everywhere! 'nuff said

It's become less of a battle for me to want to leave the table when I want to from both ends. I think it was because of that meltdown I had some months ago when I threatened to throw a knife at my sister.

Family dinners ended decades ago for me, but I still remember the teasing from my brother and comments from others about what I ate, how I ate it, and why did I insist on eating at certain times and refuse at other times.

I prefer to eat alone. I live alone, so that's easy now. When I visit with family, I have to deal with food issues and such, but that's infrequent enough that I can prepare.

At the same time, I've come across non-Aspies with very peculiar ideas about meals and manners.

Tell them that the 3 meal a day system is illogical and that it makes more since to eat small portions throughout the day.

I hate it. Whenever we all eat together, ALL of the conversation is about my brother. My parents are so interested in him. If I'm lucky to get half a sentence in, such as "I fixed this one computer part today", they totally blow me off with something like "Yeah yeah, that's nice..." and go back to obsessing about my brother.

UGGGGH...............

Your lucky to have a brother, I'm an only child. I HATE speaking to my introverted Serious peronalitied Parents. Everything will be quiet until my Step Mother usually will randomly ask a personal question or statement like "So you need to excercise more because, well heck yes, you need to and (my dad's name), make sure the pants size is 2 times more. I'm not horrably fat or anything, from this example you can see how insensitive my parents are.

They force you to eat dinner with them? What if you refuse?
You are 21, right? Do you own yourself now, or do they still have legal guardianship over you?

Ahh, house rules.

Are you allowed to be constantly out of the house, doing other things without your father and his wife, so that you cannot be home for dinner?

have dinner w them.



why are people so sensitive? sure your aspie, but come on...

how long does it take you to eat dinner with them? remember you ARE aspie, which also means whats important to other people, often means nothing to you. it is important to them, that you dine w them. do you have _nothing_ but hate and frustration, for that sort of sentiment?

life is going to be VERY VERY much worse for you, in the years to come, than having to eat dinner w your folks, so... you may as well see it as some further discomfort-practice.

i see a tendency here that once your aspie, you are entitled to a life COMPLETELY devoid of the LEAST bit of discomfort.
people find aspie-problems w ANYthing "no i cant take out the garbage, cus i can see people on my way to the trashcan. im aspie. its uncomfortable for me."

life is suffering. get over it.

Know how you feel. I am hoping to work towards some sort of independent situation so that I can live in my own way.