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samtoo
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12 Apr 2010, 8:03 pm

Is anyone around to talk? I need a bit of help.
Thanks

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12 Apr 2010, 8:09 pm

I wasn't very affected when it did but now I am. I'm sort of crying now. I don't know if I'm too polite to phone up and talk, because I don't feel ABSOLUTELY 100% like I know what I'm doing, so I don't phone.

I don't know what's best, because the relationship hit rough patches quite frequently recently.

I have an idea about what may have created havoc in the relationship - I have a feeling it's a couple of disturbing things about me and I feel confused now and isolated.

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12 Apr 2010, 8:33 pm

While I may not be the best ear, if you'd like to write me, I will do what I can to listen.

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13 Apr 2010, 12:12 am

Sorry to hear that, samtoo. You must be hurting now. You can pm if you like!

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13 Apr 2010, 10:06 pm

The pain is growing again. I hate not having anyone to talk to who can make me feel completely safe and able to sleep at night. I feel at my most horribly devastated when it's night time and time for me to sleep... I don't go to bed... I don't like it. Can this be helped? I think I need some help and maybe just a short conversation or whatnot... doesn't have to be pm'd because I don't want to go into major detail, but some support would be greatly appreciated.

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14 Apr 2010, 10:23 pm

samtoo wrote:

Hi samtoo,

I can offer some words of support. They are things that help me. I don't know if they will help you, but it can't hurt to share

Give yourself space during the day to grieve.

Let yourself feel the pain without trying to stop it.

I know it feels like it is the end of the world. It really does. It feels like death.

Tell yourself that it's not the end of the world.

Tell yourself that you will survive. It's ok. You can get through this.

Tell yourself that this feeling won't last forever. All things pass. Everything is temporary. You will make it through the horrible feeling.

Think of what you would do or say to someone you love who is hurting just as much as you are. Tell that to yourself and do what you would tell that person to do.

Be kind to yourself. Take a long, warm bath. Mother yourself and tell yourself that you are lovable.

Go outside in nature to enjoy things that make you feel alive and joyful.

Best wishes

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