A "Stupid" Problem

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I feel like blowing off some steam so I'm just going to post my feelings and then step out for a smoke. I hope you don't mind. I know. People have far greater problems than what I'm about to write down, but in my life it seems I over trivialize everything or blow simple events into tidal waves. I'm just an overanxious, completely helter skelter kind of guy, so what some people consider minor inconveniences I consider crisis. It stems from my inability to think things over and make determined decisions. Anyway.

I play World of WarCraft, been on this one server for about two years but recently I've been given an option to transfer servers so I can be with a group of all new people who have a much more hardcore approach to one of the game's features. (Killing big bosses, things like that.) Well, I just don't know what to do. A lot of my "friends" have left the guild I was in and are making all kinds of progress in the game's content and I'm here with what feels like a sinking ship.

I'd jump this sinking ship but I like some of the people I chat with. Unfortunately most of the like comes from a source of comfort because I've seen them around for so long. I had switched guilds after things went bad but kept it inside this one server, transferring altogether would be a huge step up for my indecisive personality. I don't really know if I want to transfer over though, and even if I don't I have no idea how to say "Thanks but no thanks" without going through more anxiety, feeling sheepish, and disappointing people on either end.

I know. It seems minute. It is.

But I can't stop obsessing over stuff like this.

I don't play online games but I would have a hard time deciding to move on to something else if it meant cutting off contact completely with a former comfort zone. Maybe you could keep up with your old friends through another venue or encourage them to go with you.

No, this isn't a stupid problem at all. Unfortunately I don't have any great ways to alleviate your anxiety over the matter, so I apologize in advance.

I too used to play an MMORPG (not WoW), got really far in it gamewise and met a lot of great people through it. But just as your experience with WoW, the friendship group may be great for a while but at some point things happen and the group breaks up or is no longer as tight-knit. For me, that stable family feeling I got by interacting with the same group was gone, and I just felt empty most times as a result. Some people transferred servers, some changed social groups entirely, some flat out quit the game. I chose eventually to quit. A couple years later I decided to try to get back into the game on a different server, but it just wasn't the same... different people, some were great and of course some weren't so much, but it could never compare to what I had before. So I quit again and don't intend to go back.

In the end, it feels great to belong somewhere... but most people simply don't seem to feel the same attachment and need for that family-type support that we do. Situations change, and it's practically impossible to recapture those feelings we had in the past. That's how we learn to treasure those things we loved and lost, and not take good things for granted, as some things seem so unlikely to ever be experienced again...