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okay so i met this really nice girl on myspace. at first we were just chatting and such alot. both bored, killing time. her profile said she was single and not looking. there were playful innuendos occasionally, but nothing serious. we became pretty good friends. i was supposed to meet her in person for the first time at the county fair, but she couldn't come over and say hello because she was a part of the 4-H Horses and i guess it would've looked weird to her family. she got a boyfriend recently, 2 days later off some advice i gave apprently, she dumped him. i guess he had trust issues. didn't know i had that much influence in her decisions, surprised me . she now has a quote by me from that day on her myspace page. and seems to have feelings for me. i was sorta surprised to realize i had such feelings myself. and we've been talking about it since and getting along better than ever.

one problem with this whole scenario though:
she's 14
i'm 19
i think really like her though

thinking maybe should tell her i want to give this a few years
and just be friends til then and see where we go once she's actually legal
and i can go out with her publically without fearing jail-time

I think it's a very good idea Seanmw.
If you can stand it, not jealous and all, it's a very good idea.

And also if you're able not playing little mind games with her and mess her life (even it's not your intention).

It could be great for the both of you.

UH huh, what ^ said.

being a stoner i can tell you that cops will find out the darndest things

dont take the risk, and explain it to her. shes young, and in 2 years minds can change, and things can happen.
i'd say tell her to wait, let her fly off, and you consider it a "nice breakup".

if your lucky she comes back to you when shes legal, but dont cling on to it.

/5 cents.

Not being funny here, but there's the very real possibility that it's not so much you as what you represent to her.... adulthood, being taken seriously, freedom, etc. Idol Worship.

So as the mature adult, I think you need to steer clear, kindly and gently, and not be suckered in by being idolized. It's a wonderful feeling, but it's based on no kind of reality at all. And when reality does set in...

it's statutory rape.



She is still a ward of her parents... and even if she "loves" you, they probably won't and will call the heavens down on your poor little pointy head.

"Run, Will Robinson! RUN!! !"

I don't know you or this 14-year-old girl, but legal issues aside, you may come to realize that your outlook on life may be quite different from hers, simply because of the age difference. You probably have a lot more life experience than she does, and you may have a much more mature perspective of things than she will. This will significantly affect your wants and needs, compared to what she might need in her life right now. Rather than the two of you being more or less equals, the relationship may become a bit more like a "big brother-little sister" thing, or if the maturity level is very disparate, "father-daughter", and the more disparate, the more stress there will be in the relationship if you try to pursue something beyond platonic. There will be times when you may tire of her relative immaturity and will want to push her to grow up faster, but it wouldn't be her fault at 14 to be like that. It'll be healthiest for her to continue growing up at her own pace, and when the two of you are more on equal footing a few years down the road, then it'll be a lot easier to manage the relationship, and the more likely it will last.

Of course. Good luck for the both of you in life.