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do u tell people ur a aspie i dont tell anyone nott that i meet anyone i never go out other than to see my horse but everyone i do see i never tell themim scraed they will treat me different judge me be afraid of me and well just never understand me not that anyone does im hating being a aspie i wont tell nobody im almost in denial i was always just a freak until i was 15 and told i had as i didnt want to belive that it was a permant thing but yet it make me relise im not alone but at the same time i feeel more alone

I don't.

I generally don't, but people figure it out pretty quickly, given my distinctive ways of doing things. They may not guess AS, but they guess something is (way) off.

I have started and I'm finding it helps me tell the good from the polite. The good people now have a better understanding of my oddness and take some of the things I do less personally. We are actually more comfortable and relaxed with each other.

The polite people draw away, because they can't handle it, it freaks them out. Good riddance, I say.

I think that not all of your symptoms are AS... some may be due to PTSD, Generalized Anxiety Disorder, or chronic depression. I encourage you to seek professional support.

Your life is precious, you deserve to be cared for. As lovely and sweet as horses are (I grew up with them), you need much more. You deserve much more.

I Don't Tell Anybody.

I do, at least to people who I'm social with.

It reminds me of a deaf guy I worked with. He spoke perfectly and read lips really well, so I didn't realize he was deaf until he told me. After that, I would make sure I looked at him when I spoke.

Once people know, they make little adjustments. And it's nice to be able to say 'it's an aspie thing' when explaining something they can do that makes it easier for me.

I see no reason to wear it on a T-shirt (well, actually, I do), but IMHO trying to hide it is pointless. I think even the most high functioning of us aren't so high functioning that the oddness (odd-tism?) doesn't show through more than we may realize.

On the other hand, I don't think most NT people even grasp what autism is, so they may know the word, but it's kind of meaningless to them.

So I tell people or don't, depending on whether it seems germane to the conversation. Most of my old friends I bored to death with it when I first found out myself.

Truth be told, once I was formally Dx'd, it was such a relief to know, that I found it more and more difficult to keep pretending to be Neurotypical. After all these years, f**k 'em, I'm tired of playing the part of a Normile...Normie...Nor-man. I yam what I yam.

I don't, unless the other person is an aspie then I'll reveal all and not give a s**t. But I don't tend to tell the NT's I know, I used to when I was younger but I'm more embarrassed about it now. My oldest friend knows but he found out by over hearing a conversation between teachers back in Feb, I don't mind though because I've known him since we were 7 so he must have got the jist since I was a proper weirdo back in the day and he also pointed out the lack of eye contact and still continues to go on at me about it.

How true that is. In younger days, I occasionally arrived at the brink of the delusion that I had finally overcome the pathetic awkwardness of my youth, and was actually fitting in. But the reality check always arrived. I was being tolerated, but by no means really blending in.

Now I no longer try. That is not to say that I trumpet my differences, or that I don't make an effort to be social. I go out of my way to learn what people like and don't like, both individually and in general, and adapt the best I can. I will avoid doing anything I have learned may be offensive or upsetting to people, even if I think nothing of it. But now I do this with the full knowledge that I am still different, and think very differently, and experience the world quite differently, and it no longer bothers me when someone works out that I am different (which most everybody does pretty quickly). Most people will respond positively to that approach, in my experience.

I don't tell people until I get to know them & can at least guess how they will react in comparison to other people I've told. I've gotten some very positive supportive reactions, some "What's that?" or "Does that mean you hit yourself?" crap , & some...not wanting to think about them.

Oh, that's funny. "Does that mean you hit yourself?"

Uhm, well...only in private.

Looking in Mirror: "I'd hit that".



No, actually it means I black out without warning, and do violent things I can't remember later. Like the Incredible Hulk.

No, it means I can only be comfortable talking to people I'm homoerotically attracted to. I like you, you're a good listener.


No, it's just a smelly skin condition. Want a chocolate covered pretzel?

if they ask.. then itss pointless to deny it

As far as I'm concerned, I think that people notice there is something weird about me, but no one clearly asks me why I'm like that. I occurred to explain that to a girl I live with because I had become really tired of all the misunderstandings and of being constantly rejected. Otherwise, I went out 5 years with a neurotypical and I explained to him that I had finally found out what was "wrong" (not that I find Asperger a really bad thing) with me. It helped him understand a looot of things that had hurt him at the time.

I think that, sometimes, explaining to people that you have certain social difficulties can help you solve problems that may happen because of misunderstandings. For example, I believe that our attitude might be judged rude, or people might think that we don't like them. But if you explain to a person that it's not because you don't like him or her, but that you truly have social disabilities for some neurologic reasons, this person will be more receptive and will be really positive trying to help you. Everybody is not an expert in psychiatry, so we must be tolerant towards neurotypicals who don't know about our syndrome. Neurotypicals intuitively analyze our behaviour following their own patterns. Once you tell them that you function differently, I think most neurotypicals will do their best trying to understand you. Of course, some people still don't want to bother making efforts, because it's a little more tiring. But these people are not the majority.

Conclusion : I would only tell people that I care about.

As you said, Willard, it was a relief to know. Actually, I was imitating neurotypicals because I didn't know there were two categories of people. I didn't know that there were "neurotypicals" and "aspies". Now I know, it no longer makes sense to me to pretend being someone I'm not. I like being sincere, and pretending is not sincere.

i tell people i'm an Aspie.
that way they can stay away from me.

I dont unless the subject comes up in conversation, or if the person kept telling me I'm ''weird'' or different in any way then I think it'll help to tell them so they can understand why I do them things or why I'm in some ways different to others

Noa x

i do. i don't exactly go out shouting it to the world though

i just put the fact out there on my myspace. anyone can read it, anyone can know. i'm tired of trying to hide it. it's ridiculous. anyone who's worth knowing won't care.

also if i like someone or it's someone who looks like they'll be one of my better friends i tell them in person.