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12 Feb 2006, 4:17 pm

I have places to stay but I need more help. I am not able to cook much for myself. My health is suffering badly. I am very lonely. Living with someone who I could trust like someone from this site would help me a lot.

I know I've said insulting things in the past but I lose sense of propotion sometimes. Please can anyone help me by letting me with with them? As I've said in the past I will pay you fairly. I just can't cope with living on my own or independently.

People have offered resources to me in the past telling me to contact them but please understand I can't. I can't trust strangers. Even ones with official roles. This is the only place I can turn to for help.

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12 Feb 2006, 4:43 pm

Oh, I'm not good at explaining things, am I? Look, I know some people want to kill me. It's really scary. I'm finding it hard to cope. Sometimes I lose perspective and think more people want to kill me than really do. But these people who really want to kill me, who I know do, are everywhere - I mean, in every city, town and village.

So I need protection. I need someone to hide me, to be there for me to come up with plans to escape and avoid the people wanting to kill me. I'm in Britain for people who haven't known me previously. All kinds of people want to kill me: gangs, social workers, salesmen, police officers, homeless people, teenagers. Understand that there is no definite place I can turn to.

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12 Feb 2006, 6:24 pm

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Ooooh, what happened to you? Whatever happened to me? What became of the people we used to be? Tomorrow's almost over, the day went by so fast. It's the only thing to look forward to, the past.

There was a time when time didn't matter, only the time of day and living was living in hope which would never pass away. Worry was a Monday morning when weekend was done. Fear was the fear of being what we have become.

Ooooh, what happened to you? Whatever happened to me? What became of the people we used to be? Tomorrow's almost over, the day went by so fast. It's the only thing to look forward to, the past.

You say I'm a fool in a fool's paradise, let my life slip away. Waited with my head in the clouds looking for a sunny day. Never go back to tell me, it's the worst thing you can do but I best go there till I found out where it is I'm going to.

Ooooh, what happened to you? Whatever happened to me? What became of the people we used to be? Tomorrow's almost over, the day went by so fast. It's the only thing to look forward to, the past.

Ooooh, what happened to you? Whatever happened to me? What became of the people we used to be? Ooh, what happened to you? Whatever happened to me? What became of the people... ?

- Whatever Happened To The Likely Lads?

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13 Feb 2006, 10:19 am

What Can I say? I can't crash you. I'm at least three thousand miles away.
You realize your fear of people-at least most people-is irrational, right?

Cops and gangs can be mean, but homeless people are just trying to get by,
and social workers don't seem to care about anything but walking through their
crappy jobs, regardless of what motivated them when they started.I hate to
deny your feelings, but I really doubt anyone wants to hurt you-none of the groups you've mentioned would have any reason to.

Take care.

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13 Feb 2006, 6:05 pm

Ante, listen. You said that you think people everywhere want to kill you. That can't be true, since many people don't actually KNOW you. If they don't know who you are, then they can't have any desire to kill you.

So that narrows it down to the people who know you. Out of those people, think again about who would WANT to kill you. Now unless you have done something very nasty to someone you know (which I doubt very much!) then those people would have very little motive to kill you.

Another point: some people say things they don't mean. If someone is angry, they may SAY that they would like to kill you, but they don't actually mean it. Its not your fault for mistaking this - it is a common aspie trait to take things literally, but often NT's don't mean things literally.

If someone were to actually kill you, they would spend the rest of their lives in prison. Nobody would be prepared to do that unless they REALLY REALLY hated you, and I doubt whether anyone really really hates you.

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13 Feb 2006, 9:15 pm

my son goes through periods of time when he feels that everyone is out to get him ~ i understand how truly scared you must be. please, do you have a therapist to talk to ? someone who could reassure you that you are safe ?

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13 Feb 2006, 11:51 pm

What's wrong with living in your home like you're doing right now?

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14 Feb 2006, 2:23 am

PoSt-pOsT-aNtE wrote:

I am not able to cook much for myself. My health is suffering badly. I am very lonely... I just can't cope with living on my own or independently.

That's why he can't live in his own place.

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14 Feb 2006, 2:59 am

Aylissa

Great signature for sure in the end. :lol: :lol: :lol:

Mods? What mods? :wink: :wink: :wink:

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14 Feb 2006, 7:00 am

aylissa wrote:

PoSt-pOsT-aNtE wrote:

I am not able to cook much for myself. My health is suffering badly. I am very lonely... I just can't cope with living on my own or independently.

That's why he can't live in his own place.

Ante could get supported housing....at the least,but he needs to see the local housing officer.
I'd say get a support worker to,from the social services,but they're useless and absolute s....... when it comes to Aspergers as they say people with AS are "too intelligent" to need support from them[and they ignore the comorbids to].

The NAS have residential homes for people with all types of Autism,so if supported housing [which is living on own,but occasionally having someone to come in and do things] isn't suitable,that might be worth checking out................but...a social worker would be needed first,as funding goes through them,and....there's rarely any spaces,they have homes in Northenden and Todmorden [a nice rural place in Yorkshire but close to Manchester]

Of not being able to trust strangers...
Is there no one that could act as an advocate....someone who could do these things on own behalf?
My tutor acts on my behalf for things like this and speaks for me when i'm unable to.

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14 Feb 2006, 7:03 am

I don't understand why he doesn't want to stay at home with his parents like he's doing right now.

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14 Feb 2006, 10:38 am

alex wrote:

I don't understand why he doesn't want to stay at home with his parents like he's doing right now.

Wasn't it Antes' parents who threw him out originally? problems possibly related [or not] to that?

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14 Feb 2006, 3:15 pm

KingdomOfRats wrote:

alex wrote:

I don't understand why he doesn't want to stay at home with his parents like he's doing right now.

Wasn't it Antes' parents who threw him out originally? problems possibly related [or not] to that?

I have reason to believe that he was never thrown out.

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19 Feb 2006, 8:54 am

I'm still living at home, and I'm not happy about it. The thing is, that I deal with that Reality. I've cooked a few big meals for myself, a few times, when I've had the house to myself for a week. I'm a good Housekeeper. I LOVE doing laundry, but I'd rather put my money towards London Vacations, than towards a Down-Payment for an Appartment. I want to go to London, two or maybe even three times, before I move out. When I'm not doing Chores, I'm either at my Clubhouse, looking around Value Village, or leafing through Books in my Local Library. And I walk my Dog, both before I go out, and when I get back. The part that humbles me to admit, is that my Mom is around, in case I wish to break into a chirpy "Cockney" monolouge about my Clubhouse Life.

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