Does life ever stop sucking beyond this point?

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It feels like I'm taking up space and not worth a s**t anymore. My mom just took away my computer privelages, which is the onl thing I do after school. And it was because I wasn't doing my work in another class. And this class basically you have to take in order to work during school hours and I'm failing it with a 26% and if I fail for the quarter I can't do that anymore.

I also am not good with girls at all which still upsets me. Because of how down I am, it seems unlikely that il'll ever have a gf or anything. Plus all I want is a black girl which makes it that much harder.

I don't care about schoolwork anymore, it's just pointless work that you do to get into college so you can take more classes and do more work, and it doesn't look like life will get better in collge either. Then after college, you have to work probably like every day all day until you're 70 the predict.

There's nothing to look forward to in life and nobody undertands my problems because no one seems to have them.

school does such and sucks by design


try learning stuff that you can use

however why not looking into independant learning maybe homeschooling?

I'm sorry you're having a bad time of things at the moment, but I must tell you based on personal experience, you are waaaayyy too young to be making such a long-term prediction with such finality. Those of us with AS may always lag behind the curve where that sort of socializing is concerned, but that doesn't mean we have any excuse for giving up trying. Some skills may not come naturally to us, but we can still grow into them over time.

I often had the same defeatist thoughts at your age, but I was wrong. I've had a very rich social life with the other gender over the years, and many a long dry spell in between. You will likely have periodic down times when all of life seems to suck - even the happiest, most well-adjusted person in the world has their dog die once in a while - but it the long run, it all works out. Okay, most of it works out - some things just suck and you have to live with that.



Well, you're almost right - most people don't experience life quite the same way you do. But as you log on to WrongPlanet, you're standing in a roomful of us who have difficulties and frustrations very much like yours, because we all have the same brain wiring that gives us a (nearly) identical askew view (if I may paraphrase Kevin Smith).

We may not be able to fix the things that are making your life difficult or unhappy at the moment, but we all understand the feelings that you're experiencing and we - well, most of us (there are a handful of w*kers who just enjoy being cantankorous) - wish you the best and hope things start looking up soon. Here's to better days...

Don't give in or give up at this point. As Willard said, you're young. Many Aspie males here didn't have their first girlfriend until reaching their 20s or even 30s, and some never have. You'll find one, maybe not as soon as you like but probably sooner than you fear.

School is school. You seem to have grasped the essential nature of the process, so make the most of it. Enjoy what you like, slog through what you don't like, and look for what you love (Aspie obsession or whatever).

When I was in my teens I felt worst in the fall, even though that's my favorite time of year. The start of a new school year and the social demands of school life were overwhelming. It got harder as I made my way through high school and college, mostly because others were moving further and further ahead of me socially and emotionally. I'm the functional equivalent of a preteen, according to my neurologists, though I do manage to live on my own, and have even had a few girlfriends (I'm 40+ now).

It gets better as you get further on in life and can create the kind of life you want, rather than being stuck in the NT world.

Last, you're not alone. As everyone has pointed out, you're here on WP.

been therrrre haha.

sounds alot like how i used to be.
def try to pass that class. hard but possible. i was failing in English with a 19% once and brought it to an 90-something%. from an F to an A. i used to be horrible at english classes. i'm excellent with words, grammar, and such, but their structuring i'm not too crazy about. That and i never did homework

taking away computer privileges for people like us is downright cruel though. NTs don't seem to understand that. my dad tried that on me. i got around it though and used the laptop at the cafe down the street and the public library computers. and he took them away just because i don't have a job. getting jobs are hard, especially for me. i was sooo mad, i used alternate computers out of spite. i was 18, not a damn thing he could do to stop me. eventually i just moved into my mom's place. i have a bigger room now and cable tv in it . computer access whenever i want. altogether more freedom. my mom was always the more understanding one. and i'm still jobsearching, because damn it, i feel like a helpless streetbum when i have no income and it really grates on me.