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12 Jun 2018, 6:13 pm

How do you show your personality/charm/attitude etc to women who refuse to even say hi to you ?

I’m tired of getting that useless advice
Some women will see if a man is his life status and if it’s not good enough they’ll never talk to him. So should I just lie? But then if they date me when they find out I built the whole thing on lies they be pissed and end it 0.o



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12 Jun 2018, 6:13 pm

It’s like being told you just have to wow the interviewer to get a job. He how’s that helpful if you never get interviews



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12 Jun 2018, 6:14 pm

The best thing is work on your looks. Women are far more superficial than society tells us.



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12 Jun 2018, 7:00 pm

Daniel89 wrote:
The best thing is work on your looks. Women are far more superficial than society tells us.

I can’t afford plastic surgery
Even if someone paid for it
That’s only get me so far many ask about ones job and car status in first 1-3 messages then end it. So n where close to a date where my personality and charm could be seen



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12 Jun 2018, 7:01 pm

Have you tried speed dating?



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12 Jun 2018, 7:03 pm

Sly is not ugly enough to be rejected by women. No he's not.

Forget about plastic surgery, please.



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12 Jun 2018, 7:06 pm

Daniel89 wrote:
Have you tried speed dating?

There’s not singles groups, speed dating, church’s single minglers etc or any help for single people in my area. I’ve heard Portland has speed dating and such but I can hardly get to many places in my city Portland is impossible. I’d be open to it or single mingles or a professional match maker but non of those exist. Most other cities have tons of singles activities, usually churches have single groups but guess no one in my city cares about single people.



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12 Jun 2018, 7:07 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:
Sly is not ugly enough to be rejected by women. No he's not.

Forget about plastic surgery, please.

I am super ugly or unattractive as women say
If I won the lottery I’d get plastic surgery done



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12 Jun 2018, 7:17 pm

I know good looks. I know bad looks.

You're okay-looking. Not great. But not bad, either.



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12 Jun 2018, 10:21 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:
I know good looks. I know bad looks.

You're okay-looking. Not great. But not bad, either.

There’s attractive and ugly that’s it. Ok isn’t attractive so it’s ugly. Most women won’t date men they find unattractive so all ok looking gets you is anquanitence



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12 Jun 2018, 10:40 pm

Why is this in The Haven instead of Love and Dating? Maybe it's so we aren't allowed to criticize.

The problem I have with that is that the typical content of L and D is very toxic and I'm actually surprised it's even allowed on the site. I would be sorry to see Haven go the same way.

I am going to report this thread.


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13 Jun 2018, 12:35 am

If the only marketable dating qualities you have are on the inside then nobody will ever bother to look. You have to be able to entice someone with looks, stable economic status and/or charisma to get anywhere. If someone's not physically attracted to you, and they want to live a lifestyle that you cannot afford (as in they can pay for holidays overseas etc and you can't pay your own way) why would they consider you as opposed to someone they are physically attracted to and who can pay their own way?

I find it interesting that your first reaction when someone suggests improving your looks is to bring up plastic surgery, as opposed to weight loss, which is something that is actually in your control. It's as if you don't want to put any effort in.

Imo weight loss would help your appearance infinitely more than plastic surgery could, and Id certainly recommend getting down to a more aesthetic weight before even considering plastic surgery, as your face will change for the better with weight loss and you might find plastic surgery wouldn't even be necessary.



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13 Jun 2018, 12:52 am

The Grand Inquisitor wrote:
If the only marketable dating qualities you have are on the inside then nobody will ever bother to look. You have to be able to entice someone with looks, stable economic status and/or charisma to get anywhere. If someone's not physically attracted to you, and they want to live a lifestyle that you cannot afford (as in they can pay for holidays overseas etc and you can't pay your own way) why would they consider you as opposed to someone they are physically attracted to and who can pay their own way?

I find it interesting that your first reaction when someone suggests improving your looks is to bring up plastic surgery, as opposed to weight loss, which is something that is actually in your control. It's as if you don't want to put any effort in.

Imo weight loss would help your appearance infinitely more than plastic surgery could, and Id certainly recommend getting down to a more aesthetic weight before even considering plastic surgery, as your face will change for the better with weight loss and you might find plastic surgery wouldn't even be necessary.



You get it. There’s a lot of people here who’ll deny it and say women will look past my lack of qualities if I just had positive attitude. That’s not how the world works. I use to be positive it got me where I am.

Weight loss won’t change my face. Women on dating sites just see my face, plus other fat men fatter then me with good jobs get gfs and wives so body size isn’t as limiting factor as my face and income.

Losing wieght is hard when depressed and soruunded by family who eats whatever they want and buys me snacks. I lost 22-24 pounds after I stalled and gained 15 pounds or so back.



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13 Jun 2018, 12:53 am

BeaArthur wrote:
Why is this in The Haven instead of Love and Dating? Maybe it's so we aren't allowed to criticize.

The problem I have with that is that the typical content of L and D is very toxic and I'm actually surprised it's even allowed on the site. I would be sorry to see Haven go the same way.

I am going to report this thread.

Or maybe I posted it here so people wouldn’t turn it toxic. I deleted it from l and dating cause I’m upset and don’t want to be criticized which is exactly what havens for and so you come in and attack me and report my thread :roll:

Guess you’ve joined the anti sly group who just want me exiled from wp.

Other people post threads about their frustrations be it dating or other frustration. If you don’t like me or my existence yuh can just not read my threads or posts.



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13 Jun 2018, 2:09 am

you can also stop making generalizations.


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13 Jun 2018, 2:46 am

Kiprobalhato wrote:
you can also stop making generalizations.

Does “all most women” make sense? Nope it was a mistake not a generalization,it was pointed out to me by mods, which you or what’s her name could done. I probably was originally going say a lot of women then decided in most instead. Most of a lot isn’t generalization as it’s nit saying all. What would you call 8/10 ? Certainly isn’t some. Gosh it’s impossible to please you people.