This makes me very angry

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I'm really tired of being told "Grow up" so often, people say aspies have a younger mental age, however this is excrement vomited out of the mouth, let me clear this up, being looked down upon by society certainly does something to you, it does not make you friendly, although being unfriendly and childish are two different things, maybe being isolated in a room for long periods of time makes one unfriendly, there is also a difference between being a brat and a misantrophe, a person that hates man, the people who tells me and others to grow up are insecure, stereotype people who have no life, laugh of things only a gorilla would laugh at and are completely boring and of no interest. Also, I noticed I were interested in documentaries aimed at an older audience at age 14, I laughed at adult jokes, were ironic, had a formal speech etc.

It have been speculated that aspies have an older mentality as well, I myself have the mentality of a 50-year old, as you can tell from my writing and formal posts, I'm calm, have no interest in slang, but at the same time I have the mentality of a grown-up and a teenager, I can switch between them depending on the situation, but I can't manage to behave like a child, which is a good thing.

I don't think anybody ever fully reaches emotional maturity. It's a relative term anyway. Certainly there were times when I wanted to say that to my own father.

From age 3, I was capable of saying intellectual romantic things, I was disguisted by the other my age lowlifes my age who farted, cried etc. Also, I was far ahead in math at age 4-5, having the knowledge of a 3-4th grade student. It's not immature when a 3-year old speaks formal, and doesn't laugh of your usual fart-jokes, new swear words..... F*** them all I say.

What you are talking about is sophistication not emotional maturity. I don't know which the people who are saying "grow up" to you mean.

I wish every time a person told another person to "grow up," a burlap bag of sand with the words "VAGUE ACCUSATION" stitched across the front would comically fall from the sky and plant them to the ground. And as they rose from the pile of dust and brushed themselves off, I'd ask "Seriously, could you be more specific?"

Those who accuse others as childish--by telling them to grow up--really mean to "be like me."
"Be like me," they say. "I'm the accuser here, and I'm telling you to stop doing what you're doing, or start doing what I've been doing, because you're not fitting my pre set definition of maturity, which, because it's how I feel, I naturally assume everyone else whose grown up would feel this way as well, and thus I spread a gross overgeneralized statement to 7 billion other people on this planet, except you, because you're a kid."

Honestly, grow up into what? A Manticore? What am I doing that's so childish to you? Can't you put yourself in my own shows, even for one minute? Grasp my reasoning? Use some of that enlightened thinking, the kind that, oh, puts end to wars? A little respect, little tolerance, etc?

In short: they're stupid and need to go away.

Man I'm long winded today. *fades into the mist*

i believe they're referring to your emotional maturity. not your intellect.

Fact: aspies notably tend to be behind in developement of emotional maturity.

wrap your mind around that for a second, just speculate possibilities

Maybe they are saying "grow up" because you come off sounding a bit like Holden Caulfield.

This is nonsense, what about those mentally unstable people who live in institutions who act like they are emotionless and have depressions, what about grumpy math-teachers who appears to have no soul and rarely smile? They are not emotionally ret*d, but i'd say unstable, serious, I myself can smile and laugh if I want to. When I was a kid, I was scared of the big adults, that was my emotion back then. Now, I'm not afraid of them, I have the emotions of a teen, maybe of an adult, because my mind is that of a 50-year old.

I believe that having the mind of a 50 years old man without his experience must be a difficult thing to live.

Get rid of it immediately bdhkhsfgk!
(And I'm not mocking)

If you don't do it now, I also believe that you may have a hard time to do it later.

At least.

But that's because, on the opposite of you, I love nonsense.
Life is pretty much easier when you're sensible to it.

Join the club. It really pisses me off, too. I have to work twice as hard as my peers to be taken seriously.

I am behind in emotional maturity. I didn't always think so, I used to think I was ahead...not the case. It is very annoying cause I realise now that's what made highschool so difficult for me socially, I just wasn't at the level everyone else was. And what sucks even more is, now in my mid 20s I have reached the emotional maturity level I'd need to be at to have a successful highschool experience, but alas it is too late.

One upside is all those shows (sitcoms I guess) that people at school used to watch and love that I never understood (cause I was too young in the head) I now finally get them, so I can enjoy re-runs of shows people usually wouldn't watch anymore. Yeh I know, lame upside, but I'm trying to find these mysterious positives of having HFA and I'm starting there.

Lines form on my face and hands
Lines form from the ups and downs
I'm in the middle without any plans
I'm a boy and I'm a man

I'm eighteen
and I don't know what I want
Eighteen
I just don't know what I want
Eighteen
I gotta get away
I've gotta get out of this place
I'll go runnin in outer space
Oh yeah

I got a
baby's brain and an old man's heart
Took eighteen years to get this far
Don't always know what I'm talkin' about
Feels like I'm livin in the middle of doubt
Cause I'm

Eighteen
I get confused every day
Eighteen
I just don't know what to say
Eighteen
I gotta get away

Lines form on my face and my hands
Lines form on the left and right
I'm in the middle
the middle of life
I'm a boy and I'm a man
I'm eighteen and I LIKE IT
Yes I like it
Oh I like it
Love it
Like it
Love it
Eighteen!
Eighteen!
Eighteen!
Eighteen and I LIKE IT
by Alice Cooper

I know how you feel I often get told you are 29 so you should know X or you are 29 learn to do Y. It simply shows a lack of understanding of AS my 5 year old cousin is staying at mum's place right now and I have seen him a couple of times. I see a lot of him in me his lack fo social understanding, intense interest in things, acting up when tired or frustrated etc. In many ways aspies are grown up five year olds obviously not in all ways we have adult thinking in some ways too but those who say to grow up are not being fair IMO if they imagine you to be five in other words if you make a mistake or something just put it down to lack of understanding it would make life easier. I find it tough to live in a world where I am supposed to be adult but arent really socially. I am in many ways too I drie a car, live independently, travel independently etc.