My friend has been acting different and snarky towards me.

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I have a friend who would tease me for not knowing things about the world that most people know and she would just tease me and make fun of me because of living under a rock, or what not.

But lately for the past maybe three months, she has gotten quite snarky with it, like she would tease me with it but she would tease me in a way, in which sounds snarky to me like she is judging me or something.

I asked my gf who is always with me when I am around my friend, and my gf said she completely agrees and sees it that way too. My gf described it as, whenever she teases me about it, she slows down her voice and talks to me like I am dumb, as if she needs to slow down her voice for me to understand her properly, and it sounds more condescending when teasing, my gf said.

I feel that her teasing me with the change of tone, compared to before, has been going on for the last three months maybe, and it has happened around the same time she started hanging out with me and my gf, where it was just me before.

However, the timing may not have anything to do with it, and maybe just be a coincidence. I am just merely trying to guess what is different compared to before, and me having a gf is different. But that might not have anything to do with it at all.

However, I have been forgetting a lot of things lately, cause of memory problems, cause of insomnia I have been going through and working on, and so maybe, I am just out of it, brainwise, which has caused her to act like that.

But what do you think, or how should I approach this, if her possibly being more judging, is true?

i have an awful deja vu here. i have answered a tread like that. in close to exact phrasing. the hell wrong with me. anyways, anybody is being an as*hole, give them a burn. whoever doesnt care for ur feelings deserves to get some in their face. sorry if im provocative. im one sick thing right now.

Your friend sounds jealous and nasty, ironpony. Is she really a friend? How is she toward other people? Does she often put down groups of other people?

True friends build you up; not tear you down.
Surround yourself with folks who encourage you, and exclude those who ridicule you.
They are not your friend.

Well I would talk to the person. Tell them you dont like being made fun of and you will stop being friends with them if it continues. I would hate something like that. It would really get on my nerves. You already have a girl friend so if you loose a frend it wont matter so much. But like I said talk to them first.

I had a friend like that too. We were best friends and all of a sudden he changed his behavior towards me to snarky and mean, would make fun of me and call me names like stupid, ret*d etc. I laughed it off but it hurt me and I didn't understand why, if ever I got upset he told me I was being sensitive and made fun of me for that too. As he struggled with mental health I thought he'd be understanding and respectful about it when I finally got my diagnose but instead the snarkiness got worse and he acted better than me and like I was a child. Eventually I brought everything up and confronted him about it and he got pissed and said I had ruined our friendship when all I did was say that his behavior was hurtful to me and then he refused to ever speak to me again. At first I was very hurt and confused as the friendship was great at first but now I have realized i'm better off and that his behavior was manipulative and toxic especially with trying to make it my fault in the end. No one should put up with that, I think you should confront your friend like I did mine. Real friends never hurt you and make you feel sad.

I would start ghosting that person; she is not a real friend, and doesn't deserve your friendship.

I don't know if she is nasty, but just a little snarky or condescending it seems. For example, we had dinner, just me and her cause my gf wasn't available till a party we were going to later. During dinner my friend acted nice towards me, like she use to be. But then when we got to the party with my gf, I feel she kind of got snarky towards me again.

So I wonder if it has something to do with my gf.