Ever have dreams of how life would be like without AS?

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I wonder what life would be like without AS. I know someone who is a surgeon and her dad is a doctor as well. She has no disabilities at all. So life for her has got to be easy. A life with no AS would be wonderful. Why let children with AS suffer? I don't know if children today who have AS still struggle like I did. Every time I aced a homework assignment the teacher assumed my dad did the work for me. Has anyone had that issue in elementary school, or high school or college? If I didn't have this AS I would be way more successful than I am now. I feel ashamed. But I have to accept that I have AS and it won't go away.



Anna

Huh? Where did this notion come from? Not everybody born without AS is automatically destined for glory and economic success. Being born into the family of a doctor is itself a step up from the git-go, if only because its fairly guaranteed you'll at least have the funding to go to college, should you choose to do so, and of course any parent who owes their own success to higher education would be likely to encourage that, to say the least.

I certainly know as well as anyone what a handicap even the highest functioning autism can be and I won't pretend its not. On the other hand, since I didn't know I had AS for many years of my life, I went on pursuing whatever level of success I could and managed relatively well for some time. All I'm saying is, while AS is a disability and may make certain things difficult or even impossible to fully achieve, that doesn't mean you can't find something you enjoy to give your life a sense of purpose.

AS isn't the only handicap in the world - plenty of people struggle with other difficulties every day. Its probably the extremely rare individual who doesn't have several things about their personal nature that they constantly stumble over. Some are successful in spite of that, some succumb to it. Its all part of growing up and being human.

Even Jesus, revered by a third of the world as the very personification of peace and compassion, lost his temper from time to time - withering a tree because his blood sugar was running low and there wasn't any fruit on it - wow, some peace and love representative, eh?. The stories about his childhood are even more shocking, like using his superpowers to kill playmates who annoyed him and being forced by his mother to revive them (those got left out of the official canon because they aren't good examples for children in Sunday School). My point is, if you accept the Christian notion that he was the Creator of the Universe come to (pretend to) die as a symbolic sacrifice for human stupidity, he apparently was very successful (as a symbol, that is - crucifixes are all over the place). Of course, an actual cure for human stupidity might have been more helpful.

On the other hand, if he was simply the son of a carpenter trying to spread the message of brotherly love for all mankind....well, maybe not so successful after all. See? Its all in how you look at things. You can have it however you want it to be.

Yea, once I had a dream I was abducted by aliens from my room and woke up two days later in the basement and went upstairs to my mom and sister all confused where I was, but the aliens cured my Aspergers and I felt a bit different. It was a pretty silly dream though.

A lot less complicated lol easier to read people, more friends and less complicated relationships.

I also dream about my life without AS. A successful pianist or a piano professor teaching at a local university. Music would have been my joy and life.

There is another issue that I don't know if most people with AS have. It seems like people with AS have more common sense than those who don't have AS. Getting made fun of by others is so wrong and rude.

I frequently dream of how my life would be without AS, but it doesn't matter. I know I'm never going to be neurotypical. You can't choose whether to have AS or not, but you can choose not to let it affect you. My mom always says an aspie has to work a lot harder, but if you do, you can overcome it. It's not too late.

I often do. Not permanently, though. I have this obsessive thought about becoming NT for a week when I visit Russia this summer with my family. I will go to clubs, pick up guys (Despite being an asexual! Remember, it's a role!), hang out with groups of NTs, etc. I will learn as much about NT behaviour as possible before this. I just want to experience a taste of NT life; it'll be all an act. I know that I will be really anxious. I know that this will take a lot of effort. But I want to see if I am capable of acting totally NT for a short period of time. Hopefully I'll get diagnosed soon and my parents will understand my problems better and help me out with this little "experiment". It'll be like I'll be reborn... like this person whom people will get to know in that one week is just an appearance who will appear quickly and disappear just as easily... I don't know why I'm so excited to be someone I'm not, but I guess I am. Oh, and also I want to change the opinions of everybody who know me in Russia from thinking that I am "weird" to them thinking that there is nothing fundamentally different about me (they haven't met me or talked to me for years, which makes it interesting to see their reaction to me change when I come back to see them all after all this time).

But yeah, I love imagining myself as an NT. It makes me happy, even though I know that it's a false illusion, to think that maybe somewhere in the future, I will be able to learn enough skills to be able to act like an NT. That's only in Russia, though, or anywhere outside of the circle of people who know me for the loser I am.

I did have such a nightmare. In that dream, I liked Top 40, I wore skimpy clothes, I weighed 130 lbs, because I was obsessed with health, weight and diets, and I've spent an hour in front of the mirror, brushing my long hair and putting on expensive makeup. I woke up screaming. That was last year, when I was a punk.

Hey I'm obsessed with my weight. That's why I have battled an eating disorder since my late teens.

I feel like with better social skills I would be less incredibly lonely. It would be nice not to obsess over things all the time. ...Yes, I fantasize a lot about being 'normal'.

Weirdly enough I read once that something like 1/6 of people with anorexia have an autistic spectrum disorder.

no

If I didn't have AS, my fanfiction wouldn't have existed. I wouldn't be with my husband because I would have taken a different pathway. I would have never gone to London. I might have been bullied less, have more friends and it would have been a lot easier and not be ejected by them, maybe have a boyfriend in my teens. I might be socializing more, have interest in having friends. I know I would be a body language reader and maybe sense people's feelings a lot more than sometimes. Maybe be more aware of my feelings and do sports more in my childhood and more after school activities (I hardly joined any). I know I would be a different person if I didn't have it. It makes me me.

I would of been more of a happier person, probably would of been much more social than i'am today.

Still would of been a heavy gamer and u wouldn't got my favourite obsessions and life would probably be more boring?

I wouldn't of been able to draw either of have much of a talent but everyone has talents

I've said it like it was for me, 12 months ago. I realize that there are people here, who are obsessed with weight and excercise. If I said anything to hurt or offend anybody, I apologize. I'm also trying to be healthy, in a way that works for me. I will not be walking off into the mist, like I did three times last year. I will stay and I will learn something from each active member, here at WP. I've felt that I was personally attacked, in this thread yesterday. Maybe that was the case and maybe that wasn't. Let's put that all behind us, and start over.

Was that me? I'm sorry. I wasn't intending to attack you. I was just trying to tell you being obsessed about weight isn't a none aspie thing.