It's hard to get over some one

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Especially if you keep running into them.

Yes, that indeed is hard. I hope you find a new and better someone soon.

I can relate, a lot of the feelings come up much more strongly when that happens to me. I try to avoid talking or keeping communication to the minimum with someone I was involved with, to protect my feelings.

I had that same thing happen to me when I was 21. I fell in love with this girl at work.

At first, she was interested in me; she even followed me home one day. However, after two lovemaking sessions, she just lost interest. I had to face her at work every day for the next two years, totally obsessed with her, with the love totally unrequited.

I was so obsessed that I followed her home one day. She caught me, and that forced me to stop doing these things, and to move on.

Please remember that this is not a present-day behavior. I'm 55, and I was 22 (when I followed her).

Yeah that's the kind of thing I would have done when I was younger.

What makes this worse is thati think he still likes me and just thinks I'm not interested in him.

Can't you invite him out for lunch or something?

I'm failing to see the need or even desire to get over someone who is not over you unless there are quite serious problems when you are together.

This has been going on for a few months, over 6 months and i've been feeling confused and unhappy. This just isn't going anywhere, so I though, rather than being unhappy an hung up on someone who isn't emotionally available I would be better just getting on with my life.

Which seemed to be working well, but then I started running into him again and I realised I'm not over him. And the way he behaves around me makes me think he likes me sometimes, but then I'm not sure.

I don't know how this works out for other people.

I'm not ignoring kraftiekortie's comment. I dunno how I'd manage to ask him out like that. I'm pathetic

It's not pathetic...it's just societal things which prevent women from asking out men.

I guess you'll have to go the indirect route, then. Like maybe talk about some art thing or lecture coming up.

Or whatever you are into, and you think he's into.

I understand your reticence, and that you don't want be hurt. I've shared that reticence in the past.

But if you really dig him, you should let him know, IN CASE he digs you.

Just because I ask a friend about him
Just because I spoke his name somewhere
Just because I rang his number by mistake today
He thinks I still care.

Just because I haunt the same old places
Where the mem'ry of him lingers everywhere
Just because I'm not the happy girl I used to be
He thinks I still care.

And if he's happy thinking I still need him
Then let that silly notion bring him cheer
But how could he ever be so foolish?
Or where would he get such an idea?

Just because I ask a friend about him
Just because I spoke his name somewhere
Just because I saw him, then went all to pieces
He thinks I still care.
Yes, he thinks I still care...

- not sure who the actual songwriter was; Wikipedia gives Dickey Lee and Steve Duffy. I like the Anne Murray version.

I like that BeaArthur

I have similar sentiments too with someone I always am in close proximity too,
Unfortunately I think the window closed and well I act too slow in general.

Ignore them, push any dreams of being with them away and consider that they might have AIDs anyway lol