Anyone else feel like this?

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well, im still not quite sure this would be the proper section of the forums for this thread, but it seems like it might be, but it might belong under the haven instead. I just dunno, but here it is anyways.


Has anyone ever gotten so sick of seeing other people in a relationship, even to the point you just want to do whatever you want to break them up? This even goes for what I see on TV, i'm just so god damn sick of seeing couples everywhere I look. (Especially this time of year with the jewelry commercials and all that. The same can go for when most other "holidays" are around.) Society places too much value on relationships and sex. :/

Some may call it jealousy, maybe it is maybe it isn't. All I know is I feel an Intense rage/hatred whenever i see it constantly. I haven't acted on it yet, but the feelings are still there and it persists. Maybe it just me denying the fact I desire a relationship, and in turn, primitive instinct has taken over. I just have no clue.

But I am curious, has anyone else ever felt this way, and how did they dealt with it.

I have a friend that told me he always felt that rage come up in him with all the commercials of guys and girls being all romantic with each other. He was sick and tired of not one of them depicting his life, especially being two guys shopping for that ring, or having a romantic connection over what ever they might be selling. Poor guy, would rant and rave over it being unfair to be left out.

Since I have had male/female relationships, I don't feel that way. I just look at the moon eyed lovers depicted and mentally calculate how long until that feeling fades away and they are left washed up on the rocks of a relationship they didn't really plan for - thinking that heady lovey dovey feeling was going to carry them through the rough times. Well, sometimes that does, but with 50% divorce rate (and that is only those that actually marry) it doesn't happen more than it doesn't.

so, try to remember that they will probably break up with out you doing a thing, dude.

yes i have in a way....i have thought often why guys who act like moron get girls i mean not all girls go for social skills everyones different ! i believe morrissey wrote a song about how you feel and the situation you explined "heaven knows i'm miserable now"

could have something to do with my social anxieties as well probably. Lets just say back when i did work, i used to always think about going out to find a girlfriend, but now that im out of a job for a few months now, well i tried to put that on the backburner. Well, human instinct of course wants to put that up as the main concern. So yeah, sometimes because of it ill just degenrate into a mass of nerves that does nothing but whine about his life.

Your idea may help me deal with it, but I do have an issue of my mind wandering when i try to fall asleep. If my mind decides to go to certain things (such as the fact i have no job or a life anymore, or my instinctual drive to find that woman for myself, well ill just lay there for hours fully away either crying my eyes out, or just being a silent but overly depressed person. Dunno why my mind wanders like that, and the only ways ive found of stopping it is to induce unconsciousness (usually via sleeping aids or benadryl, sometimes just a shot or two of vodka will help me fall asleep, and no, i dont mix meds and alcohol.) Ive tried meditation to clear my mind, but as soon as I am done, it starts again as well.

No, i never meant for you to go out and find a job. if you can't work you can't work....i was just meaning the line in the song where her quotes " two lovers intwined pass me by and heaven knows im miserable now" its a sign of slight jealousy and hopelessness and of poor social skills....thats all i was meaning.

With me its the fact i have sucked at any kind of relationship, work, college, school, peer, romantic i am hopeless at them all and i have never really had a friend and any i did used me and took advatage of me.

Hehe. Good song

eh, you might have not noticed that I wasnt referring to the song line with that, but with the relative pointlessness of the situation my life is in currenly. And yeah i get your point, I probably am jealous. Yeah I have friend, but we rarely get together anymore, usually because people have no time to make room for friends anymore. Yet if someone really needs to talk, we all are willing to lend an ear for eachother. As for college, havent gone because I am too nervous of the fact that not having my drivers license yet (well I have parents that would always say they would take me out to practice and take the exam, but never did. I eventually practiced enough that I can take the test, but where I live, the place is open like twice a month, and there are never any open appointments.) So yeah, I know going to college would help me get a job (still cant decide on wether to go for electrical engineering, audio engineering/productions, or even go for a political major). But yeah, been thinking more and more that if worst comes to worst, ill just join the military or something.

Nope

Hmmm public displays of affection I call them - it always made me feel uncomfortable to the point of irritation - I never understood why 'some people' feel the need to sit in a public place sucking each others faces off JUST GO AND GET A ROOM!

As for the endless happy couples on TV - that's just cynical media types catering for their 2 main demographics - no1 single people who will undoubtedly get lot's of "no strings attached sex" if they buy their product and no2 couples that 'if' they buy their product they will stay together forever in contented bliss.

What amazes me most is that this dross must work on people because they wouldn't keep on making these commercials if it didn't.

Aside from that we are back to the old conform conform conform do the 'expected' thing or you'll be branded a freak!

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I absolutely hate commercials from Kay Jewelers. They do it especially more during the holiday season. The guy has this gift for the woman in a tiny box and you just know it's an engagement ring and then they kiss. I did have a boyfriend and we were together a long time and had plans to get married, but it never happened. I can't stand it when couples kiss on public trains or in restaurants. It's as if they are telling the world "Hey I'm married, or I have someone and all you single people are dumb."

heh, yeah, those were the exact same commercials ive been speaking about.. And yeah, you last statement on the message that t all sends out is pretty much how I end up feeling.

When I was 15 I fell in lust with a girl in one of my classes. We would CONSTANTLY be holding hands, and any chance we got we'd be giving each other tonsillectomies. It's hormones, and hormones run riot when you're a teen, and you can't deal. The thing that mystifies me is why perfectly rational ADULTS rush out and get hitched for LIFE due to hormonal lust, they should know better but don't. I haven't felt that sort of hormonal lust in a LONG time, probably because men lose potency after 25 or so. But yeah, the commercials sell hormones, which is what's so frustrating about them. I tend to look at it logically, and say that you'd have to be really stupid to think that your hormones can pick a lifetime mate for you. I think the pheromone colognes that they sell to desperate men are even dumber, Jay Leno had a joke skit one time where a guy uses the cologne and still can't get a date, and he turns around and all these small animals are humping his back.

I think i have seen that skit before, and I do agree. Of course neglecting my natural sexual drive doesnt help mental states either I guess. Stupid Hormones, the reason for the majority of lifes problems.

No, i dont envy other couples at all. I feel more jealous of lone people who appear confident and self assured.