I get punished for being autistic

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I'm 21 years old with high functioning autism. I've been in college for nearly 3 years now, will probably end up dropping out by June because my scholarship is about to be gone due to me failing classes and getting bad grades. Yesterday I come home from school;. I was in a happy mood because my girl friend and I recently just fixed some problems we had and we're excited to talk to eachother again. I come home, my mom asks how my day was just as I'm setting my lap top down on the table in the room. She tells me not to turn it on and then goes on yesterday about how I'm not looking at people enough and making eye contact. I explained to her that she doesn't even make contact with me half the time because shes a mod on the Sims 3 forum and litterly does nothing but sit in front of the computer and answer peoples computer problems about the game all day long, sometimes I wonder if she even heard me because all I get out of her is "mhm" or this laugh that I can tell is forced. She then goes on about how I didn't thank my dad for a new keyboard he bought me the night before (when I did) and decided that beings she didn't hear me say it from not talking loud enough, that I just didn't say it to begin with (she decides if something isn't done the way she wants it that it just never got done period!) I got into an argument with her about it, and then goes on about how I don't understand facial features and volume when talking correctly and then threatens to send me to some care home if I don't do it right (I'll move myself outa this f-ing house to somewhere else if this is whats gona happen everyday!) She then tells me that beings I'm having so much trouble with this that theres gona be consequences for it and tells me that I don't get to turn on the computer and get to remove a dead bush outside by hand all by myself. I spent 3 hours with that damn bush and in the mean time she emails my girl friend this b.s story about how I "foolishly challenged" my parents and am about to get kicked out. I'm 21 but I don't even feel like it, I feel like I'm 5. I'm getting punished for being disabled. When I'm done with college in June (if I'm not already kicked out from doing bad this term) I'm getting a job and getting as far away from them as I can when I move out.

Sounds like standard non-understanding NT behaviour, probably thinks that you're acting that way on purpose to annoy her some sort of crap like that. Like you said, move out ASAP.

As for the dropping out of college thing, click here

Shes well aware of it, she threatened to file complaints against the high school most of the time for not including my IEP when it came to grade time. She apparently just thinks its something that "improves" over time which it doesn't. And yes, I'm aware of people that dropped out of college and became some of the richest people in the world, but honestly, I don't see myself as the next person like that.

It can improve over time, but assuming it will do so over the course of a few years is stupid, especially since we're all different.

Well I'm probably better with socializing with people then I was back in grade school, but apparently I haven't improved enough to my mom's standards.

I think that you should move out as soon as possible. You don't need that abuse.

You should really try finishing college. I would suggest spending more time away from home. Find a library to study at or something. Finishing college is really important so you can get a better job and be able to move out.

You should really try finishing college. I would suggest spending more time away from home. Find a library to study at or something. Finishing college is really important so you can get a better job and be able to move out.

Try to get help from your college disable services office. If you're not doing well in school they could help you get better grades.
Right now the best thing you can do is finish college and get into grad school. As an autistic person you will need a solid college education or you'll end up doing some kind of low pay menial job or worse, at your parents forever.

I don't know if you have an office at your college for people with disabilities. Have you checked them out yet? Maybe they can help you out with your difficulties. I'm sorry about the way your parents treat you. Best of luck.

I think your Mum may be the one who has the problem. If she doesn't realise that your college work is more important than doing some gardening for her she has her priorities seriously screwwed up.

Her behaviour sounds very childish and I'm wondering if she's acting like this because you have grown up and will soon leave and she will no longer be the 'in charge parent'. Undermining your choices and belittling you to your girlfriend are not the actions of someone who has your best interrests at heart but soneome who is acting upon their own interrests. If I were you I would do your study at the library rather than at home to avoid having her take away your study time.

Do let your college services know about this problem and mention it to your tutor too if it is affecting your college work.

It is cruel to punish someone for traits they can't control.

That mother does have issues.

Contacting your college's student services would be useful i think. moving out ASAP would be great also.

Would it be possible to move out and get a part time job of some kind and study part time?
over here there is an allowance you can claim if you are studying and supporting yourself.