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i just finished having the worst meltdown ive had since I was 15. yesterday was my birthday. i turned nineteen. My boyfriend flew out to see me. Today he gave me my presents. Lovely clothes and a strange ceramic cat from his Grandma who considers me her granddaughter. Later he was unpacking his clothes, and he gave me another package, wrapped just like the others. I was so excited. It was the most beatiful wonderful gift i have ever gotten. It was a wonderful glass coaster set in my favorite colors. I felt so good, like she was giving me a grownup gift and considering me an adult. I called her immediately to thank her for the presents. I was very surprised, she just kept talking about the clothes which werent even the best part! Then i got very scared and anxious and afraid they weren't for me. I thought maybe they were for my brothers girlfriend who just graduated college. Because she had given her a christmas gift. So i had my mom call her and mention that I loved my presents. Then mom told me the coasters were for her. I'm so sad and confused. I don't understand. I feel tricked and hurt. They weren't marked and the packaging was the same as the other presents. I don't know why my mom would be getting a present either. And they are my absolute favorite colors, the exact colors I love. My mom does not like those colors especially in that combination. I was so pleased that she thought i was special enough to give such a fancy, beautiful gift to. They even had their own box to keep them on display when not in use. I felt so good and suddenly it all went downhill. I'm just so confused and sad. Why didn't she mark them? everything is wrong.

That sucks. One thing to be given an unwanted present, another thing to have a nice one taken away from you..

Maybe you could trade something for them? I'm sure if you explained how much you liked them, your mum wouldn't mind.

(in future, don't clarify; just presume they're all for you and squirrel them away )

A mistake was made. That is a bummer, oh well. You need to get past it. It is a material item. How his grandma treats you is the real gift. Accept that one graciously.

It sucks, when a parent takes away something that you love. My mum learned her lesson, two weeks, after that week that I've spent at her place, in October, that she'd better not take my current special interest away from me, the day that I was released from the hospital.

So another person is expected to be psychic enough to know you would have preferred the coasters over the clothes, and are also expected to know what colors your mom does and doesn't like, yet you shouldn't be expected to be psychic enough to know which presents are for who?

That's a bit hypocritical don't you think?

Your boyfriend's grandmother is obviously a nice lady and sent a gift for your mother because she was thinking of her.

The labels probably fell off the gifts, or she forgot to label them, or she told your boyfriend what was for who, and being human, he forgot.

yeah, i've had something vaguely similar happen.

we were going through my grandma's stuff after she died, & being just one of the grandchildren, they let me look through the cast-off stuff they didn't want.
So i was looking through a binder and found a Confederate paper $1 bill from the american civil war that was probably worth something. I tried to show everybody 'cause i was excited to have found anything that cool. But they just brushed me off the first have dozen attempts to get their attention because they thought it was worthless "foreign" money. But finally i made someone understand what i'd found, & the second those vultures realized it actually had any value, they spirited it away from me & i never saw anything of it again. They would've thrown it away in the trash if i hadn't found it, but did i get anything? Big no. I was pretty pissed off for awhile. Bunch of ingrates...
I should have just kept my big mouth shut and pocketed it