Freak out...over something that should be nothing

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My dogs just destroyed (like not salvageable at all) my brand new hoodie my gf gave me for my birthday a few days ago.

I know this shouldn't be huge but it's like one of the most freaked out times I've ever been, I don't know if it's the attachment to objects issue or the fact my gf bothered to even give it to me or what...

I lost it, am still losing it somewhat
....punched a hole in the wall, freaked on the dogs, I left some rambling message on the gfs phone...ugh

How do I get over this whats a good coping method? I fee like tearing my house apart -- the gf isn't home she's at school I have no one to talk about this too.

I can understand how that would make you feel, though.

Generally I tell myself a positive aspect to whatever just happened. Think of it this way: It's an opportunity for you/your gf to buy you a BETTER hoodie.

Or I convince myself it's actually funny.... (My old laptop crashed, and the charger started smoking when I was reformatting it.... so the battery died while in the midst of reformatting, and I lost a year's worth of data + the computer. Anyway, my point is, despite practically LIVING on that computer, I found the entire incident funny because spontaneously combusting power cords are hilarious. Well, I DID freak out first.) But before that, I need to distance myself from whatever is making me anxious.

I tend to do the same... flip right out over something that seems small... I lost it a few days ago when I realized that I had missed an appointment that I can easily reschedule. In my case though, the appointment was the final thing on the top of a list of many things that went wrong, one after another. I find that to be how it goes with me a lot of the time. My way of dealing when it comes to a series of things set off by one small thing, is to stop it before it starts... take random moments throughout the day to go off alone and sit in quiet and unwind. I tend to not notice I am stressing until it is too late so I need to be overly mindful of myself to prevent those situations.

I have also been known to blow up, out of nowhere, over something small. When that happens, I need to just let it run its course, as I have no idea why I am reacting with such severity. I used to break things, throw things, hit things... so I got a punching bag and a lot of ceramic tiles from my mom (who was remodeling and had a few hundred extras). The punching bag is okay, but the tiles are the best things ever. I have a corner in my basement designated for my destructo moments and I grab tile after tile and pelt them into a wall. It is safe, contained, and I am not hurting anyone or anything and I still get the release that comes with shattering things. I can scream down there, yell, throw... just go nuts... and I feel better when I am done. Sometimes I need that. If you find you need to go destructo to recover, find a way for you to be able to do that without messing up the house, your stuff, or yourself so you can get it out without having to feel bad about it later. I am a firm believer in physical release though... exercising, running, even cleaning can good for me if I am not so agitated that I cannot think straight.

If you love those dogs I don't know what to say, but if you don't I'd beat the s**t out of them, seriously.