I'm 21 years old and feel like I'm 7

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So some of you may remember seeing my other posts on here, but if not I'll fill you in. I recently turned 21 years old in November, I have high functioning autism and have a VERY hard time in college. As a matter of fact I ended up getting an F in one my classes last term (1st term of my 3rd year of college now) put on academic probation for the second time, and I'm betting I won't have a scholarship after this school year. Which as bad as it might sounds, is just fine with me because I honestly don't wana be there anymore especially when I can't even go there and get a degree in anything because I'm not able to pass any classes that involve math in them, even after taking them 3 or 4 times. Anyways, on to my original my problem. As I said I'm 21, but I feel like I'm 7. My parents keep nagging at me for being on lap top at night. I'm not even up THAT late most of the time. Sometimes its the only time I really get to talk to my online girl friend of a year and one month, but sometimes when shes not on or sleeping, I just sit and watch anime on it to settle me down for bed. I've been that way since I was like 7, I can't just instantly go to sleep I have to do something like watch an episode or 2 of anime or read some comic book or whatever. Anyways, even though I'm 21 and considered to be a legal adult, they decide that I need to be offline at 10 PM. My dad started getting in my face this morning before I left for school about how I was on till 11. I am getting sick of this, as far I'm concerned I should be allowed to do anything I want that is legal. I mean a couple weeks ago when they were chewing my rear for getting that F they go on about how I don't think highly of myself, well when they pull things like making me feel like I'm 7 years old, that doesn't exactly make me think highly of myself, in fact, it makes me feel even LESS.

I dont know if you have the same thing as i do.
i had a heat stroke when i was 15 and now
i have been 7 inside since then. i cant watch
news or football because i get distracted or i get upset if
bad news comes on and i cry or get scred and scream
out of the room. i watch teletubbies before i go to bed
so i will have nice dreams and not wake up screaming and
wake up the whole house.

It's not that I mentally "feel" like I'm 7 years old. I mean I feel like I'm being treated as a 7 year old by being told things like I can't be online past 10 PM when I'm 21 years old, a legal adult and still being ordered and controlled as if I'm a little kid.

I also get annoyed when my parents treat me like a child but thank goodness they don't stay with me when they come and visit. When they did stay with me two years ago, they kept asking me when I am going to bed or kept telling me to go to bed. I was staying up till four in the morning playing Super Smash Bros. Melee and I was working swing shift then.

My husband says I act like a child when he tries and gets me to do things like go to bed, go out and do stuff and have fun. How does a grown up act when they are being told what to do? How does a grown up act when they don't want to do it?

My parent's logic for sleep is that it'll affect my grades and I can't afford to fail another class. A major problem with that logic is that I just failed that one accounting class (heavily involved with math) but passed everything else with a C or better. If lack of sleep was really messing me up then I'd be failing everything, but god forsake I try to argue with their high and mightiness.

Oops. Duh on me.
ok you mean too many rules?
Zorry i miss things some times.

Don't worry about it, I don't see a lot of obvious things right in front of me either, that probably why I can never pass math in college even after being shown how to do it 28 times. But yes, I don't know if its "too many rules" but that part about basically being told when I have to go to bed as an adult I find to be asinine.

I flunked out of college. I got married and I have kids. I've got a decent job. I'm OK and so are lots of other people who don't finish college. It's not the end of the world if you don't graduate. Bill Gates and John Glenn don't have undergraduate degrees. It's my understanding that the world's first private astronaut, Mike Melvill doesn't even have a high school diploma.

I did exactly what you did except I did it 25 years ago...I understand your parents being upset, are they paying for you to go? Mine were quite angry at the time too. However, with the passage of 25 years both my parents and myself saw that I just wasn't college material at the time. If classes with math are too difficult, perhaps persuing a different major such as history or art might be the path to take.

I'm on scholarships, which will probably be gone soon because of my poor grades. And at this point, my original major which is computer science is pretty much a shattered dream because I can't even take the class for them because I can't pass the math classes I need to take before I can even think of them. And a lot of other degrees aren't open to me either because I still need those stupid math classes that I can't pass. Actually ALL I'm taking right now is just art history and history classes because they were like flat out the only thing I can take this term. After taking them for almost 2 weeks now, I can already tell you that I have no interest to pursue in a career with them.

Your parents are not giving you enough space. You need to have a room with a lockable door.

My room does have one actually <_< but the router to where they can shut off the internet unfortunately isn't in my room. So they'd still have control of dictating when I can or can't be online if they really wanted to go that far (which I'm sure they would)

I would build a wi-in antenna for internet
and tap off of someone's open connection.

My lap top has a built in one, and I can do it easily with all the neighbors internet signals, only problem is I can do it from about every place EXCEPT my room <_<

Is there a way to improve or alter the antenna?

If only there was a way to put an antenna out
of the window in your room, or make a reflector
parabola to concentrate the signals in and out of
the antenna.

Some guy managed to boost the signal with a simple kitchen pan... and I know for sure there are "official" antenna boosters that can be bought...

Perhaps a wireless USB card with a USB extender cord that you can put outside a window. Make sure it uses a Ralink chipset, though - others are crap with USB

It's built in, so I can't rally modify it too well. But I have a feeling when my dad gets home they'll both tag team me and do something stupid like take my lap top away from me at night.