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The only thing my parents care about is getting drunk, getting high, partying, sex, all those things they consider the only way of having fun.
They never really cared about me, or how it would affect me, not the least little bit. Growing up we were poor, and money went for alcohol first, food was always second, thats what food stamps were for. My mom has been a alcoholic for so many years

I am 25, I never drink, never tried drugs, never been to a bar. I learned to avoid all that stuff, mostly because of growing up with my parents. I refuse to be anything like my parents and try to be responsible. I am far from perfect, but I refuse to accept it, and they have never seen anything they do as wrong, they think it is perfectly fine, and think I am the one with all the problems
I cant move out, I would be able to live by myself if I had a little help/support, but I cant get any, I have tried.

Earlier today I went with my mom to the store, and when we returned I walked in to find my dad sitting there getting fu*ked up, and now my mom is pretty drunk. She is a alcoholic, but cant just drink, she has to drink to the point of not being able to walk and just passes out at random places. Then in a little while they will go up to there room to have sex and I will have to put ear plugs in so I dont have to listen to it, they could care less that I am here, they really dont care, sometimes they do it in the living room and I accidently walk in on them.

Anyway, I am really mad because my dad supposedly stopped awhile ago because he gets drug tested at his job, and he already had a positive test, and if he has another one he will be fired. It makes me so mad, I get so mad that I end up hurting myself from punching something or biting myself because it makes me so mad I cant handle it

You gotta get outta there, support or not.

Maybe you could look into a shelter worst case scenario (you can' t get out any other way). But honestly, I think you should try (if your not in school already) getting some form of training or into a college (they're should be student loans for students who have no help from their parents, etc.) Reasons you may be able to get financial aide for school include your lack of parental help: no money/welfare, exposure to alcohol, drugs, etc., (didn't check your profile but guessing your disabled) that's another reason you could get aide. But no matter what you do GET OUT OF THERE ASAP!

I agree you just need to get out. That's what I finally did with my alcoholic father and it was a one of the best decisions of my life. My mother was also an alcoholic, but she died when I was young. I still have some major problems due to the damage they did to me, like issues with abandonment, trust, and problems making friends that get exacerbated with my aspergers. But getting out will be a process of self-discovery even if its scary in its own right, but whats scarier is if you just stay.

My mom is an alchoholic too. It tore me apart to watch her go through that. She has struggle with cocain habits also, as well as my Dad. My mom was a stripper for the first half of my life and one of earliest memories of her is riding to the strip club where she worked to drop her off in the car. I didn't really care though I was young. I didn't realize the stigma society puts on that kind of thing until I was much older. What did bother me was the excessive substance abuse. She also had a boyfriend who would smoke pot every day in front of me. I always felt like alchohol came first and I was second. I lived with my dad mostly but went back and forth a lot between them due to multiple custody fights over me. At least I was wanted. I still think getting out was the best thing that ever happened to me though.

Maybe the Department of Rehabilitation (DOR) can help you get out. The DOR is a government funded job assistance program for people with disabilities, so you won't need to pay anything for their services.

Thanks, I tried them twice before, went threw the applying and got accepted. The problem was that the only way of contacting them was by phone (I dont use the phone because of speech issues), and I couldnt keep in contact with them and they would never return anyones calls. I had a counselor and living skills trainer from the center for independent living who was making phone calls for me and keeping me in contact with them, but then I lost contact with them, because they never check there e-mail, and that is the only way I can contact them. I had a adcovate? type person also who does not help me anymore.
When I was in contact with those places, I was supposed to have a meeting that was set up by the center, about getting assistence for a place to live, what options I have, and I was supposed to apply for medical assistence. Non of that ever happened, it is darn near imposible to get anybody to actually help you, my only way of contacting them is by e-mail, and the only way you can get help from any place is if you are on the phone constantly with them.

I also tried threw mental health, but it really scared me as there is a good chance that I would end up in a group home, were they would force medication on me. No way am I going to let that happen

So, I pretty much tried all the options/help that is available and it didnt work.

I have had jobs (but have not worked for over a year now), just trying to find a job is pretty had when you have speech/communication issues. I can get jobs usually were they hire just anyone, but it is usually minimum wage, and sort of imposible to move out on your own making that much

How do those agencies communicate with the deaf?
I really feel for you, there's got to be a way to get you out of there.