Sudden need to be near people

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I'm not completely sure if this is where this should go, but anyway...

I never used to want to be around people. If I was, it was alright, but I never actually felt I wanted it. When I was able to be alone, whether it was for an hour or for a week, I absolutely loved it. Every day I would count down to when school/work was over so I could go home and be alone. I thought that being a hermit with only a few animals would be the prefferable life style. Yes I did think about having a mate, but those thoughts were fleeting and more centred around either sex, finances or food.

I think the change started about 3 years ago. I started thinking about a mate more or just actually wanting to hang out with friends. Things went slowly from there. Being with people went from something I have to do or something society wants me to do to... being something else. It wasn't really that I was enjoying it more, I always enjoyed some people's company, it was just... I was missing it more.

Lately it has been getting far worse. I get home from work and I want to be somewhere else. I wake up and want to talk to someone. Hell, I've even gone shopping just to wander around.

I don't know why this is happening. Being alone was increadibly pleasent before, now I don't really want my days off even though I rather dislike my job. I would rather be in an uncomforatable environment with people I dislike than in a nice, quiet, structured place by myself. It makes no sense to me at all. And when I am around people, I'm as awkard as ever, not really sure of what it is I want from them. I think I want a connection with another human... but to be honest, I don't know what that means nevertheless what I would do to get it if that is the case.

I guess my questions are: What is happening to me? Does anyone know why this is suddenly happening? Is there any way to undo this or how would I go about getting my human "fix"?

I have no idea what to do or how to go about doing it. I only know that I need something that I can only get from interaction with other humans. Any suggestions, explainations or help in this matter would be appreciated.

yeah, I can definately relate to ya on this, this started for me around last august, so i was 20 at the time. Not sure why it happens this way though.

Maybe you were lonely being by yourself all the time. It can be depressing to spend all your time alone. Even people with AS need interaction with others. We might not be good at it but many of us would like to fit in better. I personally don't care for having friends, but it's good to attempt socializing on occasion.

this seems to be quite common. I always wanted to spend my days far away from people in a small house. however over the last 2-3 months i have been yearning for human company.

I remember that sudden need to be around people. All through high school, I was quite happy to be by myself. As soon as the day that I've started college, I've felt the same thing that you're feeling, now. The sudden need to be around people. I couldn't wait to see my colleagues, the next day, and the day after that.

I feel isolated and alone right now. I want to feel included and have a sense of belonging, but it seems out of reach. When I'm with someone I'm unable to articulate what I'm feeling. I do not know how to ask for help with my problems even if I think it would help me. Alone or together, neither is working for me.

I felt this way when I started doing Distance Education. I needed a break from school, which I got, but eventually I needed to be around people again so that I'd actually have a chance at making friends.

Im going through that too (started about the same age as you) and it can be quite annoying. Im thinking its a sign of slowly developing emotional maturity (feels like emotional puberty since i seemed emotionally immature when i was in my teens), but who can say for sure?