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Tonight, my sister went to the shops to get pizza for me and other food items for her and my mother.
A while after she gets home, she opens my door and says I should go to the store.
I ask her why I should go.
She says because she bought something she did not like and she already went.
I say that does not make any sense and it is her problem to solve.
Then she says she will eat my pizza.
I say to her that makes no sense.
Then she says I should either go for her or go to get another pizza for myself.
At this point I am already stressed because none of this makes sense to me and I cover my ears and close my eyes.
After a while she says that will not help and she goes up to eat my pizza.
Then I go upstairs and tell my mother what happened.
She sided with my sister and said that she did all those things for me and now I should do something for her.
Eventually my mother went to the store herself and got my sister a pizza a she liked.

Which made me think about those things.
I thought it was rather unfair, because there was never an agreement about any of this, her feeling entitled to my pizza and me having to do things for her because she did things for me.
I thought it was like someone hitting you and then demanding money because it was a service he provided.

I ask of you; Was my sister right in feeling entitled to my pizza?
Can you explain this to me?

She was not right to do that at all. Eat her food next meal time, then tell her it's her fault and she needs to go and buy something for you. It makes about as much sense, and is good revenge

No, but you could share

I can understand your sister asking you to go the store. Not because you should, but it would be nice of you because she would not have to make the effort to go twice. You were free to deny this, and when you did her threatening of eating your food was clearly because she wanted something to eat and didn't want to go back to the store, she was trying to get the best outcome for herself.

Well its fair for you to go to the store a second time, she got something for you on the first, you get something for her on the second.

But it was being a bully saying she would eat your food.

Its hear fault she got a gross pizza and you shouldn't be punished by that with her eating yours.

There was no agreement - but she did do something for you. She asked for a favour back. Perhaps her reaction wasn't fair, but I also understand why she asked you to help her. I don't think she asked much, and she did the same. Generally, it's a fair request.

You have the right to refuse, but she has the right to feel offended. You're her brother, she did something for you, and expected you would do the same, from what I understand. I had the same issue when I was younger. But now I do try to help my family back. They deserve it. That's not someone who comes to you out of nowhere, that's your sister, she probably cares for you, she's part of your life, she did something for you, and she assumed as her brother you would do the same.

In my opinion you should go and speak to her about this. You're siblings, you shouldn't be mad at each other for misunderstanding.

I think that it is unfair when someone does something I never asked for, and never told me that I would have to do something back, then expects me to read their mind and do something back.
I do not believe that I should do something because I am her brother.
That does not make sense.
She calls me a jerk often enough, because I do not do things that make no sense to me and somehow that offends her, which I do not understand.
I just wish that they would act logically for just a day.
I wish she was not part of my life, she is not important to me, and probably never will be.