I just like to lose it and go mad...

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... when a relationship ends, or doesn't form or whatever.
I like to lose it, give the other person hell, and constantly have at them for the pain they cause. Is this unhealthy? What kind of counsilling should I seek?

It's not that healthy. I'm not sure about specific counseling.

Next time it occurs, try to observe how this behavior does not make you feel any better or happier or get you what you want.

If you want an outlet for your frustration, try physical exercise. I used to do a lot of that in my angry days.

It's pretty normal to have negative thoughts straight after a rejection. You'll get over it eventually.

It's not normal to act on these thoughts and doing so will not gain you much sympathy.

There is no need for counselling. In fact, it might actually have a negative effect of giving you a victim mentality and encouraging you to think yourself helpless.

Gain control of your life by doing activities you enjoy/ always wanted to try and basically showing the world that the person who rejected you has no control over your life. (plus, one of the greatest revenges against an ex partner is to show that you don't need them anymore)

well if they reject you they're not worth your time and energy. Just ignore them and move on.

Don't do that. You want to always give the other person an easy way out when given a choice to be with you, and not hassle the other person. If you develop a reputation for hassling, then you are sabotaging your chances at getting into a relationship with the next person, in addition to making things unpleasant or threatening for the former.