Is chronic rejection the same as bullying?

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I was bullied a lot when I was younger, and it pretty much subsided, but it's evolved into chronic rejection, or what I perceive as rejection. Is it the same thing?

I think I can relate to what you are saying. Perhaps a history of being bullied makes you less confident and your uncertainty makes people think that you are being lazy/indifferent towards them socially and are matching that 'behaviour'?
That is one guess... at any rate taking the 'charm offensive' will always put you on the moral high ground.
i.e. if you are nothing but a sweetie - sooner or later your un-fan club may actually feel guilty and mend their ways

I think that it is a form of bullying.

No....as bad as I was bullied, I don't believe chronic rejection and bullying are the same things at all.


I only wish my peers would've merely rejected me in K-12.


Nobody should be expected to talk to, or associate with, people they don't wish to talk to/associate with.

There are plenty of people in this world i'd never want to talk to or associate with for a whole host of reasons.


All any of us can reasonably ask is that other people leave us in peace if they don't approve of us for whatever reason.

No its nothing to do with bullying, I wish I was chronically rejected in school, I was the target of a lot of bullying

I don't think it is. Bullying requires a personal attack.

Not necessarily. However, ostracism can be used as a form of bullying.

I don't think so. I want everyone to treat me with respect and understand me and there are certain people I can't stand such as bitter people so I think I have every right to choose who I want to be with.

It's psychologically damaging. I never thought of it as bullying though, because I guess it a way being rejected is my fault

I don't think it is bullying. Everyone has the right to choose their own friends, so why should they be forced to hang around with someone they don't like?

No but relating to your experience I could see why it would feel like a form of bullying.

its part of bullying of course..

thats way im always careful toward peolple ,afraid their become hurt ...
but its also misunderstanding by the others who think im do that just to seeking sensation/fame by helping them

In response to the OP yes it is bullying in some ways.

I understand how you feel -- I often get the cold-shoulder routine -- but it's not the same as bullying. No one is required to associate with people if they don't want to -- and, really, would you want them to under those circumstances? I've experienced both, and as much as it hurts, I'd much rather people were honest and excluded me than lied and acted like they liked me for some other reason. The second hurts more, once you find out.