21 living at home and don't know where to go

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Not going to bore you with the past.
I am leaving my job on the 20th of next month.
I put that quit time in because I am on my third strike for schedule and rule compliance..
So I know I am going to get fired if I stay so I figure it would be nicer to have a job that I quit instead of a job that I got fired from.
I haven't been able to keep a job for longer than 5 months since I have graduated high school.
I live at home with my parents and I have recently found out about aspergers.
I have been reading about it and I meet 95% of the criteria in the DSM but I still wonder whether I have it.

I told my mom I put my two weeks in and my mom like always went and told my dad. So my dad came home early to yell at me for putting my two weeks in. Aparently he had his own house at age 21, which is the first time I have heard of that. (Though it was his first wifes house but regardless he tells us very little of his past unless it's to teach us a lesson about how wrong we are.) And a couple of days ago I had mentioned aspergers to my mom, not saying that I had it just that I was reading about it. So I'm not sure what she said to my dad but then he ends up telling me I do not have a disease, which I never claimed I did. Anyways I am feeling very worthless and whenever I have these encounters with my dad I end up obsessing over my worthless status. I ended up cutting a big zero into my stomache because I felt that's what I am. I had a night mare about my mother having sex with a random person in our house, and myself taking my brothers shot gun and killing myself while my brother came home to find my brians splattered on his porche.

Anyways, contemplating joining the air force maybe, or just taking all my money on the 20th and going east to idaho to hopefully start my own life in my truck and with maybe a little camper but my brother who I think highest of thinks I would be a hobo if I pull along a camper and live in it. So I'm not sure that I could live with my best friend my brother thinking of me as a hobo. Well...just thought i'd share my confusion.

have you considered college? Leaving home with no job and no money and no place to live is a massive mistake. Living in a vehicle is also a mistake. I suggest you join the military or go to school or get some vocational training.

If you have money it will run out if you leave w/no place to go and no job. You need food and clothes so your best bet is to sit down with your dad and come up with a reasonable plan for you to obtain independence. Your parents will probably be glad to help with this and tell your dad you quit because you realize it's time to stop working dead end jobs and get serious. It's very easy to go to school online now(and less stressful then going in person)

Go to college!! !

what is a good school to go online to?

Before this I was going to school and doing the best I ever have at a small branch off version of a community college. GPA was 3.8-3.9 but then I began to work because my parents are low on money at the moment. Before that I was going to the community college in my city getting 2.3, mostly because of the distractions of the school being just like high school. The most recent school I was going to was about a half hour away and I don't know a soul there which enabled me to focus.

Also, some people have suggested I get loans to go to school...where could I go to get loans? I don't know how that all works and it's frightening stacking up debt at such a young age especially if things were to not work out. If I go to school online then I can probably work but I don't know where i would work.

The problem with joining the military is they require no mental illness background, which I have a long record of. (Whether it's real or not I don't know anymore) I don't know whether I would be able to act "normal" long enough to pass the screening to get into the military. And would they kick me out of boot camp for being strange or would they just hound me. (Don't think they'd hound me, I am pretty good at staying out of the way) But how would I march when I am so uncordinated?

A few notes about college and your situation:
1. When looking at an application, a college pays a lot of attention to your GPA at your last school and less attention to your GPA from previous schools. With a 3.85 GPA you could probably get into a better school than the one you last attended, especially if you kept it up for another semester or two.
2. Not entirely sure about this, but student loans usually don't have to be repaid while the borrower is experiencing significant economic hardship. Loans usually are taken out through the financial aid office of the school that you're attending. It's relatively easy to apply, with stopping by the financial aid office being the first step.
3. Your ability to find a job after college will largely depend on what you studied.
4. Pierre-Auguste Renoir, the painter, noted that the problem with the military is that the wrong people end up dying (i.e. the people who shouldn't die). So be careful about that option.

Also, due to where I live there is a big pressure on me to join the military....I have 2 naval bases within 5 miles of each other. One for ship repair and the other holds nuclear sub marines. 90% of my friends are in some branch of the military and enjoy it though their tastes are quite different from myself and their ability is quite different as well.

I have two brothers, one is 25 and working as a mechanical engineer in the ship repair naval yard, and the other 23 is in the coast guard and going to school to be a construction manager. So in comparison though I am youngest I look like an idiot and a failure because they've got things going for them. I think I'm going to go into the school I was going to tomorrow and see what financial aid or loans they can offer me. Would really like to live on my own as that would be peace of mind that I've never felt before but until I get a decent job it looks bleek for moving out unless I do the mobile truck thing.

Also afraid to go into the military recruiters office because I've seen so many go in and come out practically in the military just from one visit.

I have two words for you
Student Housing.
Financial Aide covers it. You go and apply for it and talk to student housing tell them you need to live on campus. If your family is hard up financially you can get Pell Grants(free money to study)

I suggest you do that. As for the military consider boot camp. If your smart enough to go to college you should. Utah State is good, Kaplan, Capella, and WKU.

I know there are a bunch more. Seriously do not move out and live in a vehicle...when I was young I did something similar and all kinds of horrible things happened to me. Culminating in me being involuntarily committed. You are better off with family until you join the military or move to student housing.