Constant paralysing fear

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How common is it have obsessive negative thoughts/extreme anxiety/constant irrational worry with AS?

I have days when I can barley function due to my axiety and crippeling fear. I worry constantly about things that are way beyond my control. Things happening to those I love when I'm not with them. It's the fact that I can't control these things that causes this extreme fear and anxiety. It can get so bad that I no longer want to feel.

Anyone else relate to this? Is this part of AS?

I can relate to it (see my recent post in this forum). I do not know whether it is part of AS. I wouldn't be surprised if the two had a high correlation, even without a causal relationship.

I used to have this and sometimes still downgrade to it. The only thing that works is re-training your subconscious to jump tracks - from negative to positive, or at least to neutral.

It's very hard to do and takes a long time. As always I'd suggest taking up Aikido as an invaluable tool in this endeavor. It stabilizes the subconscious and lets the light shine onto the world, lets me see it the way NTs see it.

Yes, I feel this way. I think it is a variant of us needing routine and predictability. We identify things that do not necessarily have routine or predictability and obsess about the lack of control/ routine those situations present.

I have many paralyzing fears and they all revolve around things that cannot be controlled-- driving is one fear-- I cannot control how other people drive-- so it is a completely unpredictable situation-- this is terrifying to me--- etc..

Heheh. Well, it takes two to make an accident, in MOST cases. That's why I drive like like a Terminator. I am always _in the moment_ while driving. I've avoided a LOT of accidents because of this. Most of them related to cars coming out of nowhere and doing fast, wide turns, or changing into my lane - WITH ME IN IT.

People who throw their arms out the window, gesticulate with their passengers in the car, and DON'T USE TURN SIGNALS, I find to be suicidal. Natural selection continues - those who don't respect the fact that they are driving a multi-ton piece of steel with horrifying amount of power behind it, eventually get into an accident. I just hope they don't take innocent people with them.

The fear of some things is preventing you from doing anything. Obviously, this will only continue to consume you. There is and easy way to overcome this - you must look within yourself, and CHOOSE to stop being afraid. You said it yourself - much of this fear is about things you can't control. Fear is nothing on its own - don't let it control you.

I was the same way, a long time ago. I was afraid to go anywhere on the weekend, when I was in high school, because I was afraid that I would bump into the kids, who were in my regular classes. I was afraid that they would call me names, and beat me up. I was afraid of anything that reminded me of my peers, in the late 1980s and the early 1990s.

I'm very proud of how far I've come. I'm a 60s Mod, who's not afraid of anybody, or their limiting opinions.