I feel like a useless failure....

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Well, in an effort to at least try to get out there, I tried for my driver's permit, and, of course knowing me, I failed. I don't even know why I try to succeed at things. I'm just going to fail at them. I try to pass a math test, I fail, I try to socialize, I fail, I try to get a driver's permit, I fail.

Now the question I ask myself is, why do I even bother? I'm never going to succeed. Like I'm just a useless piece-of-slime failure. I feel like I get up for a few seconds only to be pushed back down. Sometimes I don't want to get back up, and today is one of those days.

You can't fail at everything. What don't you fail at? It can be small things. Think of some. Maybe you are failing at certain things because they are not for you. Find things that are.

Try not be so attatched to outcomes. Enjoy what you do, and relax. You may find that with less pressure put upon yourself to succeed, you finally do.

The reason you don't just give up on everything is because that way lies misery, at least as much as a life of always trying and failing. It's better to try.

Just one of those days for you too, huh?

And believe me, failing the test for a permit once isn't all that bad, heck, I did too! Failing it 3 times like one of my friends did? That is bad. I'm not even sure how he did that.

As for why should you bother? 'Cause giving up is the easy way out, and even thinking about taking the easy way out is not worth it, I know from experience.

My sister failed 3 times- it was really upsetting for her. But, you know what? That doesn't mean you suck at driving or that you are a failure in general. It just means the intricacies and ins and outs of driving laws (which a lot seem very random and illogical) aren't that interesting to you.

Sure, those laws exist for a reason, but honestly are you a horrible driver if you can't remember to go 12MPH in a parking lot vs. 15? Or because you can't remember which way to turn the wheel when parking on an up or down hill slope? Or if you didn't realize that one isn't allowed to smoke while driving minors (even if those minors are YOUR dependants. My sister did not know the answer to this because she doesn't smoke so she never bothered paying attn to that law)? No.

I barely passed mine. I only was 1 wrong answer away from failing. And I did just fine on the actual test later. Because I learn better by doing. Maybe you are the same. It's OK to not care about the 5 million crazy specific laws re: driving- as long as you are use your common sense once you get behind the wheel- and that can only be learned by practicing IMO. I had 2 accidents in my 1st year (and 1 was a parked car!). And I was 22. o.0 So don't feel bad for not doing well on a silly paper test on the strange laws that exist. There are LOTS of people who pass the test who fail the big one later, and there are many more still who pass both but go on to be horrible drivers. Just keep trying

Lots of people fail their first driver's test. I passed mine, somehow. Keep practicing and try again.

I failed my maths O level so many times that by the time I passed it wasn't even O level anymore, it was GCSE. And it took me seven goes. There are some things that we're good at, and other things we're not good at, and like the rest of the world our strengths and weaknesses vary. I'm a middle aged woman, and I can't drive to save my life. (Well, maybe if I had to drive away from a big monster I could get the car in gear, but knowing me, it would be reverse.)

Don't worry about it. But for what it's worth, I know how you feel.

This raised a question from me.

Where do you get the power to attempt another iteration
if you have no more power to do so?

Some things I have no more power to attempt
again because of this fact.

Where can I draw more power from when
I have none to draw and trying to do so
results in slowdown and shutdown?

im sorry to hear that. but what helps me is to try to figure out. take a day you dont have school or anything, and just explore your mind. shut your tv, computer, lights, everything off. just sit down and think. dont control your thoughts. just let them come and go. you will have a breakthrough. for example. i have a 37 math average, and a 65 science. all that means, is i dont have a damn future and enginering lmao. what i am good at, is analysing facts, and predicting outcomes from what happens in history. so thats what i focus on.

That's true about a lot of people failing their first driving test. And the second and third.

Be patient with me, let me tell you about my sister's driving test. Sis was Mom's caregiver - Mom had Alzheimer's. Mom could not live alone any more so Sis bought a house and put herself and Mom in it. None of this was easy.

The only problem with the house was that it was way out in suburbia where you must have a car. And Sis had never learned to drive. So on top of all the other stuff, she took driving lessons and failed. She tried again and again until she got her driver's license with another instructor. And *then* she saw in the newspaper an article about safe driving, with a picture of the instructor who had failed her, with the caption that he prides himself on passing nobody on their first try.

So you're not a failure. It's a try again situation. Don't give up and please *don't" criticize yourself!

You have a rest, have a sleep, have some food and wait 'til you feel prepared to have another go.

Thanks for the advice guys. While I still kind of hate myself for not passing my test, I'm feeling a lot better than I did yesterday. Thankfully, I can study my driver's manuel and try again next week.

I might fail once more, knowing my luck, but I can at least try my best, I suppose.

When I took my test in MD the first time I failed it because of nervousness. Now I had been driving for around 18 years at that point. I just had to get a MD license because I had an expired TN license ( I didn't have to renew it while I was on active duty.) I went back the next day a little calmed down and passed though. You will be fine! You know what to expect, so even if you don't have the same test again you should do fine. Don't be discouraged.

Good Luck for the test.

Try your best and don't worry about the result.

Aspiecartoonist - first of all sounds like a crap day and I have those and really do get it. Here's a (((hug))).
I think you should get to work making cartoons about driving. How silly it is, the ridiculous rules of the road, draw some outrageous stuff like another car gets in your car's way so you (the driver) push a button and a big mouth with big teeth eats the other car and you go on your way Use your strength and YOUR way to focus on this thing. NOBODY is keeping track of how many times you take the test - take is as many times as you want. Maybe make up your mind you're going to take it 10 times and then when you pass it at 6 you'll be soooo much more successful at having passed it so early!

Littletigger - draw your strength from your cat. Look at the cat - do you think he gives a crap what another cat thinks of him? He just IS and he just DOES and he is the very best cat he can be. Do it. Be the very best you that you can be. Who cares about the rest. Every day tell yourself this whole thing is getting better. We will never be able to get 'done' and we (none of us in the world) will ever be perfect but every day we're better than we were. That's all we can do - nothing more.

I failed the written test twice. i got tripped up over the ambiguous questions which, apparently i was told an NT would have no trouble with but i overanalysed them...

Where I am from when u fail a driving test you just have to pay for another test.
so as far as the department is concerned each failed test = more money in the bank.

Is this true where you are?