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With College looming I'm kind of excited but scared aswell. I tried to call the school (to talk to the guy who worked about the suspension to get my registration fixed) I called Friday and today (Monday) and he STILL hasn't called me!! ! I started crying since I'm scared to death of the future! IMO College isn't going to just be all happy happy going back! That teacher I found her office number/email but don't want to bother her. I'm so scared of the future! Mom said she doesn't think I could handle it but I'm not sure myself!! !! I'm SO SCARED!! !! !! ! Part of me going back (wants to be myself/start fresh a new leaf etc.) part #2 (screams YOU UPSET A GOD DAMN PSYCHOLOGY TEACHER WHAT IF YOU UPSET ANOTHER TEACHER OR SOMEONE ELSE FOR GOD SAKE YOU HAVE NO FRIENDS HAVE NEVER HAD A BOYFRIEND!! !! ! YOUR LIFE SUCKS!! !! ! NEXT TIME THE NEXT PERSON YOU UPSET MIGHT LAND YOU IN JAIL!! !! !! !!) So I'm so scared I want #1 but also have thought #2 running through my mind. Also a friend has that teacher and said I need to worry about me now and not the teacher and focus on scheduling classes since that's whats important. (She's a good friend) and while she IS a good friend. I wanted some WP advice. Thanks.

Crowded classrooms seem to have a high level of psychic interference

Your mother doesn't think you can do it. No wonder you're scared! Can you live elsewhere and avoid Mom? My mother was like that too. I never got my degree, she yanked the rug out from under me every time.

Find somebody (probably a counselor to start) who believes in you.
Avoid anybody who undermines your confidence.
Look over the bulletin board (online or otherwise) for roommates.

When you're doing classes, go and meet every teacher/professor during their office hours. Have a question re course and during the chat slip in how nervous you are. This can help a lot, unless the Prof is the Marquis de Sade.

And one final thing - look at the hordes of people out there with a degree. Why not you too?

I don't know all the details of the back story ...

But upsetting ONE person is not the end of the world. All you can do is realize what happened, and learn from it. What lessons can you take from this event?

Everyone makes mistakes. It's how we learn. Unfortunately for us Aspies, those mistakes can be really painful. But you can -- and will -- learn.

Deep breaths. Relax.

As for the friends thing, are there some clubs on campus you could try? Look to make friends through your special interests. Maybe there's a sci fi club, or something else you're interested in.

College was a really rough time for me, too. But it does get better! I promise!

Depending on your major, of course, upsetting one teacher isn't going to completely screw up your college career.

I'll never forget my first semester in grad school. I went in thinking I had it all figured out. I was a music composition master candidate and thought I had it all figured out. I did something really stupid: I took composition from two different comp professors in two completely different music disciplines--electronic versus acoustic! As if that wasn't bad enough, I decided also to take 16th Century Counterpoint from a third composition teacher. That was about the stupidest thing I could have done at the time, but I had no way of knowing. All composers need counterpoint, right?

Well, the prof didn't like me much from day 1. I don't know if it was a school policy or he just felt sorry for me, but I did manage to pass with a 2.0 in the class. I made sure that the dean of the music school as well as my advisor knew what was going on the whole time. Afterwards, I brought up with my advisor the potential wisdom of trying to take another class to get back in his good graces. He told me he'd do everything he could to get me kicked out for being stupid if I did that. Certain profs, you see, tend to hold grudges. I followed his advice and never looked back. That spot on my record partially contributed to me falling a few hundredths of a point below graduating with honors. I also successfully circumvented getting kicked out for failing a music theory exam. The loophole was that it must be passed within three attempts. Failing the third attempt gets you dismissed from the music school. The rules NEVER said when exactly the exam had to be retaken! So I elected to stretch my degree program over 4 semesters, waiting for the last semester to retake the exam. Having had 2 full years to prepare, the second attempt was a breeze.

So anyway, figure out any way you can to avoid that psych prof and you should do just fine. Good luck, and keep us posted on how you're doing!

What you are feeling is a normal reaction to a new, scary lifetime transition. Before I entered college I was the same way. Just focus on the positive, and on your good traits and you'll be fine. It's good that your doing this. People need to get out of their comfort zones by moving to new places or trying new things in order to grow.

Brandy, if your parents are holding you back you need to do something about that. You need to talk with them about how you need to be allowed to follow your dreams. Have you considered going to community college in another city or district, so you don't have to confront this teacher? You would probably have to learn to drive, or get an apartment in that city, so you could attend college there.

Have you considered the idea that you upset this teacher because you knew more about psychology than she did? I find that some teachers are really upset when they encounter a really smart student, their egos are threatened by the idea of a student smarter than they are. You need to find a psychology teacher who is willing to take you "under her wing" so to speak, who won't be threatened by you.

It seems to me, from what you told me in private, that your parents homeschooled you so you didn't know how to act in a school environment, then threw you into a regular college and you didn't know how to deal with being in a classroom with other students. I think that was awful. You never dated a boy, never went to a prom or a school dance, didn't have a chance to learn social rules. AS people, if cloistered, will NOT learn social rules by themselves. I had to learn through observation and mimicry.

You are starting from ground zero at age 24, and having to learn how to live in society all over again. No wonder you're nervous. Your mind is racing because of the ADHD, and you can't slow down and convince yourself that it will be alright. You won't go to jail. You have no friends because you were a shut in for most of your life. A community college isn't a great place to date or get friends, when I went to one everybody had their own lives and just went to school then left, and nobody socialized.