Ever feel stupid/think why did I say/do that?

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30 May 2010, 6:50 pm

I sometimes feel this way! :-( Today I heard thunder and asked the obvious question was that thunder? Mom: Uh ya what did you think it was? Me: Uh I don't know (I fealt stupid!) I told my friend all these awesome hang out plans and she said she was busy etc. I said Fine sorry I bothered you! (Someone here on WP said "Fine" was defensive) I never knew that! (luckily I FB the friend and we are still on good terms despite my comment. I feel so bad over saying/doing stupid stuff!! !! There have been other instances but those are the 2 recent ones that pop into my head as of right now. Can anyone relate? Thanks



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30 May 2010, 7:13 pm

That's normal. In the example of thunder, it's just "denial". In the example of saying "fine", it's just a habit that you can break if you care about it. Almost everything I hear people say around me isn't worth saying, and that's NT's. I usually get by with 20 words per day, unless you include vocalizing thoughts to myself.



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30 May 2010, 7:14 pm

I feel like I spend 3/4ths of my life feeling that way. :cry:


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30 May 2010, 8:22 pm

Have a look at my custom title. Why do you think the second word is there?


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30 May 2010, 8:34 pm

I accidentally insulted someone once (some random discussion about cars for some unknown reason), and insult her choice in cars (even though im not an expert). I apologized to her the following day, but it didnt dawn on me what i had said until after we departed from said discussion.



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30 May 2010, 8:44 pm

Sometimes. Sometimes it's a transient thing, occasionally I'm really embarrassed immediately after the words have come out of my mouth.



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30 May 2010, 10:26 pm

There's rarely a day that goes by when I don't feel this way.



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01 Jun 2010, 12:18 am

I evaluate my behavior retrospectively, constantly.



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01 Jun 2010, 9:10 am

A common experience for people like us.


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02 Jun 2010, 9:07 pm

I go through that, on a daily basis.


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02 Jun 2010, 10:10 pm

Yes, often.



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03 Jun 2010, 2:04 pm

oh dear, i pretty much analyse every small mistake i make every word or slight movement i make (example: "damn! i shouldnt have tapped my feet twice! spastic level rising!")



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03 Jun 2010, 3:22 pm

I hate when I say a word that means more than one thing and it is takin' the wrong way...

That happens constantly...

I get in really big trouble sometimes just for saying something that means something bad that I

did not mean to say.

I tend to ramble too much at times as well, sometimes I give way too much information...

I often repeat myself and drag things out too much...

I tend to say inappropriate things at the wrong times without realizing.

I tend to hate on myself very often for these things... but the more I do that, the more people

around me begin to distance themselves from me, so I have to try really hard not to be so hard

on myself, it seems to hurt the people who care for me.

I tend to think many things I do are goofy... bothers me... almost every move I make, and every

thought and feeling, I get embarressed in ways people can't seem to see... I'm constantly trying

to look at myself, how I behave, but I can't seem to... everything comes out completely

different... everyone sees me in a completely alternate universe than than I do...



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03 Jun 2010, 6:43 pm

IncreaseBlue wrote:
I hate when I say a word that means more than one thing and it is takin' the wrong way...

That happens constantly...

I get in really big trouble sometimes just for saying something that means something bad that I

did not mean to say.

I tend to ramble too much at times as well, sometimes I give way too much information...

I often repeat myself and drag things out too much...

I tend to say inappropriate things at the wrong times without realizing.

I tend to hate on myself very often for these things... but the more I do that, the more people

around me begin to distance themselves from me, so I have to try really hard not to be so hard

on myself, it seems to hurt the people who care for me.

I tend to think many things I do are goofy... bothers me... almost every move I make, and every

thought and feeling, I get embarressed in ways people can't seem to see... I'm constantly trying

to look at myself, how I behave, but I can't seem to... everything comes out completely

different... everyone sees me in a completely alternate universe than than I do...



WOW! I can relate to everything you said. YA!



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04 Jun 2010, 6:00 am

I can relate to what has been said.



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06 Jun 2010, 8:16 pm

IncreaseBlue wrote:
I hate when I say a word that means more than one thing and it is takin' the wrong way...

That happens constantly...

I get in really big trouble sometimes just for saying something that means something bad that I

did not mean to say.

I tend to ramble too much at times as well, sometimes I give way too much information...

I often repeat myself and drag things out too much...

I tend to say inappropriate things at the wrong times without realizing.

I tend to hate on myself very often for these things... but the more I do that, the more people

around me begin to distance themselves from me, so I have to try really hard not to be so hard

on myself, it seems to hurt the people who care for me.

I tend to think many things I do are goofy... bothers me... almost every move I make, and every

thought and feeling, I get embarressed in ways people can't seem to see... I'm constantly trying

to look at myself, how I behave, but I can't seem to... everything comes out completely

different... everyone sees me in a completely alternate universe than than I do...


It's like you've putted the words in my mouth! :O