had meltdown at festival broke up with boyfriend...etc..

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difficult to elaborate...He is my friend and I love him, but he is girl crazy. I don't want to date anyone anymore..I am too crazy/ will never be good enough for anyone..I don't want to hold him down and prevent him from finding someone that he actually is attracted to...i am not good enough for any man...too dysfunctional..I want to throw in the towel on relationships with men. They will mostly cheat on you or try to control you or both..and I am tired. I can't compete with the 99% of girls who are prettier than I am...

I started out feeling irritable all day and the festival was really loud and hot..He ran off without telling me, and I had needed to use his knife to try to make a hole bigger for an umbrella....

This has been an ongoing issue...he is going to work at the new shop we are opening...he will be closer to his house...It is a trendy part of town with lots of pretty girls everywhere...and I can't compete with them..I am suffocating him...I can't help it...it's what I do...so the only way I know how to stop is by breaking up with him,....

Last edited by poopylungstuffing on 06 Jun 2010, 11:14 pm, edited 1 time in total.

i'm sorry to hear about this poopy. i knew you guys were having problems.

He'll bitterly miss you.

I am sorry this happened. Whatever you decide to do in the future, you should take some time off for yourself for now.

Only because I am one of very few girls he has been able to have any luck with...and besides..I will still be his friend..I just need some separation time so we can adjust back to the way it was before.

I'm sorry to read that this has happened; however, please - don't put yourself down like you did in your post. It is not whether one is good enough for another; it is whether you both are perfect for each other. Love is probably the most complicated form of interaction. I hope you feel better soon. And not all men cheat - only the bad ones do.

He didn't cheat, he just made me feel ugly and inadequate all the time...without really meaning to or trying...but it built up nonetheless.....

Hold your head up high, and don't let it get you down.

It's a false alarm anyway...skewed perception part of meltdown and part of factors leading up to meltdown...heat and crowds...lack of water...I got into a negative cycle that I couldn't snap out of..

I agree. I hope you feel better soon too.

I read your post about him in the Love and Dating Forum and I'm glad to hear you broke up with him. He was destroying your self esteem and leaving you feeling ugly and unattractive. Being single is better than being in a couple but constantly hearing the terrible things he was saying. It hurts now, but now you can start to heal.

It happens. You just need to learn to watch yourself when you're in meltdown mode. It's the worst time to do any sort of decision making, especially given that's the time our logic goes straight out the window.

It was just honesty...He does not verbally abuse me. He is just honest about certain things that hurt my feelings...

It was hot and crowded...I really needed some attention and he just ran off and left me without saying anything...and then he was standoffish about it when I saw him again...and I was in overload mode because of the festival...and well the whole thing is a blur..I ended up missing one of my very favorte bands of all times...the Flaming Lips...and my friends all got to meet Wayne Coyne...

When I talked to him about breaking things off...he was unresponsive, so at the time it seemed like he didn't care..
I tried talking to him about it several times and he just sorta repeated what I said back to me without expressing any emotion..

I had just been informed that a band was playing at our venue, which was a dirty wreck with stuff all over the place...so I thought i was doing the right thing by going home and cleaning up the place..but it was a false alarm there was no band...
Everyone keeps saying that they tried to stop me, but nobody really did...
I was also in such a state that it was going to be difficult for me to calm down..
A certain thing I tend to do when I have meltdowns is take off....But I legitimately thought I had a reason for taking off...


When everyone finally got back home, things were back to normal, and I kept being told that they (my boyfriend and my partner) were disappointed that I missed the Flaming Lips...and so that made me feel like I had dissappointed with me..as if it was something else I had done wrong.....though that was not the case...I just didn't understand..

I am sorry for your situation... But I think it is just all around bad. I think he cares more about your stuff than you. It's hard cause your life is so involved in his... But honestly, friends and lovers don't treat each other how they (he) treat(s) you.

I hope you can obtain a better environment.

I don't think that's it..I think we both have issues and that he has a really hard time processing his emotions sometimes.

...We were at the bar last night with my business partner and we both had spontaneous meltdowns...me crying and him yelling because I was trying to talk about something and he insisted on making it into an arguement..stating that was the only thing he knew how to do and then he railed on about how he can't stand talking to anyone ever......We both have issues...but I need him, and i think that he needs me...I am his only support network now, since I have enabled for him to quit his horrible dead-end job...and I am very unhappy without him around. Were we to break up, he would still work for us...

I called him later to apologize for my freak out and he called himself a cold, emotionless and insensitive bastard and said he has always been one....
He was having a mood swing because he had not eaten in several hours...and now he has snapped out of it, but doesn't want to eat..
He needs looking after..but it is a blind leading the blind sort of situation....unfortunately...