My sister wont go to the swimming pool with me :(

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I did not get to go to the pool all summer last year because my sister did not want to go and now she wont go this year either, I wont go alone either because that is no fun. She tells me she feels fat, and she does not like going to the swimming pool shes 14 and im 15. I dont have ANY friends, and she has a ton of friends, its not fair. Im sure whenever one of her friends asks her to go swimming she would go, but she wont go with me. UGH. I wish i had friends I told, her that she has tons of friends and I dont and she said "well who's fault is that?" my sister does not understand anything and i cant explain anything to her. I dont necasarily enjoy my sister's company I just want her around so I dont look like an idiot being by myself.

what do i do ?

You won't look like an idiot by yourself. Seriously, most people are too wrapped up in insecurity about themselves to worry about whether or not you look like an idiot.

I know how you feel, but maybe you'll be fine to go by yourself.

Maybe you can help your sister to be more at peace with her body.

If you have any cousins that live near you then you could ask them if they would like to go to the pools with you. Or else you could organize a family day out at the pools and as for your sister, tell her that you feel lonely and want someone to hang out with. If she's a good sister then she will understand that having Aspergers isn't your fault.

We used to have a pool here when I was in high-school & it really was no fun going swimming by myself. I'm not sure what's going on with your sis OP but maybe she just doesn't like going swimming or she may be feeling insecure about herself. You could try suggesting that going swimming would be good exercise but try to be subtle about it instead of being rude about it. 14 year-old girls can be extremely insecure about things. Maybe you could try to find a way to help her. If she really is overweight or very out of shape you could try offering to help her exercise or something. You could also try talking to her about your insecurities if you have any. She mite get more comfortable & open up about things.

I think that you should go swimming by yourself, and have a good time.

Look on the bright side, most people pee in public pools your probably not missing much.

In all fairness I've no idea what it's like for teenage girls, but among older people it's not unusual to go swimming alone - lots of people do it just for the exercise and you don't need company for that; swimming actually doesn't lend itself to socialising. Plus, most other swimmers are going to be too busy, well, swimming to notice, much less care, if you're alone.