stress, boredom and depression

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Basically, I guess I'm just feeling down. I quit my job about a month ago (even though I needed it) because it was just waaaay to stressful. Then my car decided to just die. Now I'm stuck at home with no car, no job (although I am looking). My girlfriend and I have been dating for 3 months now, and for the first month or so I was able to see her everyday, even if it was only for a couple hours.

Now with no car, and no money, it almost feels like the relationship is becoming stagnant. Like I know part of it wasn't her fault, as she suffers from OCD, Depression, Generalized Anxiety Disorder, and Bipolar II Disorder, and these past couple of weeks they switched her meds from Paxil (which made her hungry all the time, which made her gain weight which lowered her self-esteem), to Cymbalta (which gave her bad nightmares), to her anti-anxiety meds (which i forgot the name of, but they made her more depressed and suicidal) to no meds at all.

I know that she loves me as she tells me, and her mom tells me too lol. I love her more than anything, and I know that I want to marry her and spend the rest of my life with her. She and I have noticed that sometimes when I plan something (like a date) I want it to be perfect, and then when one small thing ruins it (like mosquitoes) then I feel as the whole night was ruined for her. Just today she had a doctors appointment to get a pap smear, and she's never had one done so I told her that I would be there for her if she got nervous. But then of course I couldn't find my keys as I had left them at our mobile home my parents were cleaning out and is about 7 miles from my house. So I wasn't able to go with her to her appointment, and we were both upset. I was so upset I actually was crying because I felt that I wasn't able to be a good enough boyfriend anymore now that I don't have a job or a car.

I get the impression that you are trying to be the best boyfriend you can within your circumstances.
Not having a job or a car doesn't mean you are not a good enough boyfriend.
I hope things get better for you two soon.

Yeah I agree, it really does sound like you are making the best effort possible. You sound very kind and I understand it's frustrating when you're stuck without a car. I had to get mine fixed last year and it was off the road for a couple of weeks. Losing that freedom was awful, but things will get better.

I know saying that you should try not to stress too much about things is probably a silly thing for me to say as it is simply the natural thing for you to do, but your just offering to being there for her probably means the world to her. Plus when you are spending time together I think that she appreciates that too. Everything doesn't need to be perfect. I have a very good friend (he's not my boyfriend) but we have been through some difficult times together and I think that working together through difficult things brings two people closer together if you are both there for each other. When you look back you realise how much that person cared about you and you know that they will be there for you again when times get tough.

Yea true. I mean sometimes I guess I just get disappointed...especially when I get all excited about it. Like today I'm able to see her, but if for some strange reason something came up where I wasn't able to see her then I would get disappointed.