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But does anyone want to be listed in the obits in the paper? I just feel if I was listed in one, that people including some family members would have a blast over my death. Oh and yes co workers hate me with a passion. This is my first full time job since graduating college and people just despise me. I can't understand why. I hate being hurt. I hate feeling so unloved and so lonely. I tried single groups. I tried Christian singers fan sites and it's nothing but cruelty and abuse. When you ask someone why they hurt you and you tell them what they did was wrong, they don't respond. Are people that cruel?? I have had other jobs that were part time, and all co workers did was hurt me. I guess people are just put on this planet to hurt others.

I've found the same thing. I lost my last job over severe bullying, and I'm now frightened to go back to work.

How old are you? There are good people out there. I married one. Things can get better.

You are just around the wrong group(s) of people. I know I used to think family & religious people were usually nice people but unfortunately I found the opposite. The best people I've ever met were the misfits & oddballs in a college environment b/c they are open minded people. Also, their is always someone in your life who would miss you if you were gone, even if you don't know it or believe it.

I'm 32, but don't look it or act like it. I remember when I was at the airport when I was 28 and the ticket agent asked me if I was on spring break. She was shocked that I was out of college. Then I was at this Korean restaurant with mom and the waitress asked me if I as a high school senior. So I don't know if these people are making fun of me or I truly look like a teenager still.

I don't want to get married nor have children. Children are annoying. Marriage? Well I take the train into DC to work every day and I see so many married men that have the wandering eye which annoys me. Stare at your wives not at someone else!! I hate it! I was "friends" with a minister's daughter and she was so cruel and mean. That's really sad when your father is a minister yet you are just a complete opposite of a Christian.

I agree. Well, most are open minded people--there are always a few who get VERY upset if you disagree with them on ANYTHING (e.g., music, politics, etc.) but they probably won't be cruel to you for no reason whatsoever.



Also true. It's just too bad that sometimes it takes a tragedy for them to openly acknowledge it.



I'm 31 and no one can believe it. I actually kind of like that...but that's me.



I've found that most men, even if they are happily married, look at other women. Looking is not the same as cheating. However, I think many women feel as you do.



So many people are hypocrites--it is sad. That girl probably has no idea what her faith is REALLY supposed to be about. She was probably taught incorrectly by her minister father.

I've known hypocrites and I've known those who are genuinely devoted to their faith in the right way, and live their lives accordingly.

Eventually, you do find the "right" group of people. Sometimes it just takes a while to learn how to avoid the jerks and seek out the truly nice ones.

Remember you have friends here.

I was bullied out of my recent job as well. The workplace itself (a university department) was very toxic, perhaps because there were far more scheming socialites and cowards than good, open-minded people. It did scare me about seeking a new workplace for a while, though now that I suspect it's partly because of appearing odd, I've decided to be manipulative instead.

My only concerns are that, when presented with evidence, the judge (it is possible to sue for workplace bullying in the UK) would side with the NT/NPD bullies, and that future employers might be reluctant to hire me. I'm hopeful that we'll grow out of being a loose community and instead support the neurodiversity movement to give more rights to autists in the workplace, including affirmative action, as well as develop autism-friendly businesses.

Luvsterries, as I don't live in the US, I'm not sure whether Virginia has implemented the healthy workplace bill (which offers a bit of protection against workplace bullying), but I do suspect you might sue for constructive dismissal (which admittedly doesn't earn you much) and perhaps get support from the media if you document (i.e. film, tape-record etc) the bullying you encounter on your next job.

Also, let me know if there's anything I can do to help and support you.

I'd rather my demise be as understated as possible and would rather not have an obit.