Why is my family behaving like this with me?

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It's kinda hard to explain my problem in word,but I'll give it a try.

As you probably know,my family are all NTs who don't give a sh** about my Asperger syndrome.My bro is an NT,and he often get some Asperger-related behaviours that my mom (who is an NT) view as normal and okay,but if I get these same behaviours,my bro will be like ''shut up f*****g ret*d go take your pills you're annoying'' and my mom will punish me and say stuff like ''did you took your pills today?'',but if my bro annoy me or do these same behaviors(or annoy me with the same behaviors) it is perfectly okay...

Another example.A couple years ago I didn't took the same pills I got today.I add a special tic and I was always saying ''Picni'' (It doesn't mean anything,its a word I came up with) to annoy my brother.He really hated that and it also started to annoy my parents,so each time I said ''Picni'' I was punished.Now it makes around a year I stopped saying it (I said it like only 2 days in a whole year and it was to annoy my bro who was annoying me so...) but it doesn't seem like anyone as realised and it seems they continue to think I'm saying it on a regular basis.Now my little brother have very annoying and irritating habitudes that piss me off.When he eat,he keep is mouth open,and it makes a disgusting and annoying sound.He make this EACH time he eat.I alway get annoyed and tell him ''SHUT YOUR F*****G MOUTH'',my mom say me that there is a polite way of asking it,and each time I repeat that I asked my bro a thousand time using ''the polite way'' and he still continued.My mom don't seem to mind,yet she doesn't even seem to realise that my bro keep his mouth open will eating (Ironically,when I was younger I also kept my mouth openned while eating and it annoyed my mom,so each time I ate something with my open mouth and made some noise she would punish me).Also,my little brother comes up with expression that annoy me a lot but that every kid from age 5 to age 15 use (I live in Québec and these are French expressions so its not necessary to show you them I guess).These expressions annoy me really and I alway tell him to stop using them.If I go tell it to my mom,she says that I always say Picni so I'm badly placed to talk.Again,I repeat her that I stopped saying Picni a while back ago,but then she say that they had to tell me to stop saying Picni for around 2 years,so this end the conversation,leaving my little brother to say whatever he want to annoy me without any possibility from me to defend my point.

Why do my family behave like this?!?!I can't stand the injustice! !I tried to tell to my mom how I felt and how Renaud (That's my little brother name) was behaving and that she didn't punished him,but each time she get angry and repeat that ''I got all the Asperger syndrome symptoms and Renaud only got a few,not enough to get a diagnosis''.I repeat that it wasn't what I was talking at all and I still asked why do I get punished and not Renaud,but she repeat exactly the same thing over and over,like if she tought that I was wondering why Renaud isn't considered Asperger even if he as traits.

And the odd thing in that is that I'm a really friendly guy,I'm always willing to help other people and I'm really open-minded and tolerant,and my brother is stubborn,racist,intolerant,close-minded,mean,cruel (he frequently mock up other kids at his school and call me ''ret*d'',openly aware that I have Asperger syndrome).Totally the same thing as my mom,minus the cruel and mean.Each time I talk about Asperger-related issues or about the neurodiversity movement she always get angry and tell me to ''chose my battles (The way she say it looks more like if she meant ''never pick a cause or fight for your rights'') instead of picking up every cause''.And then they say that I am the socially inadapted ...''

Anyway I just wanted to know,does something similar happened to you?Were you were treated inferiorly to NT's because you were autistic or you were an Aspie?(And not just by your family,but also at the job,the school,the hospital,your friends,etc...)I just wanted to know

Yes I had that problem, and I don't know how to tell you to fix it. No one knew about HFA back then. I had it out with my older and much bigger brother one day. I never had a problem after that with him. I did get beat by my parents for stimming until I was a teenager and started to avoid them.