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DoFixer
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26 Dec 2010, 10:59 am

so I've been noticing that since I became aware that I have aspergers I've actually felt more withdrawn, like i am actually different. I've been far more comfortable with myself but less comfortable with other people, almost like a combination of fear and arrogance. The holidays have been a struggle to endure due to my disinterest with my family. Did anyone else deal with this after learning of their aspergers or autism? I'm really wondering if this is a normal thing



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26 Dec 2010, 6:21 pm

I think most of us get pretty obsessive about our asperger's when we first realize we have it. In a while you should gain more perspective.



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26 Dec 2010, 7:24 pm

DoFixer wrote:
so I've been noticing that since I became aware that I have aspergers I've actually felt more withdrawn, like i am actually different. I've been far more comfortable with myself but less comfortable with other people, almost like a combination of fear and arrogance. The holidays have been a struggle to endure due to my disinterest with my family. Did anyone else deal with this after learning of their aspergers or autism? I'm really wondering if this is a normal thing



Yes, but I think its a sort of hyperawareness, or self consciousness. Its not that you're any more Aspie-ish than you were, you just notice it more now because it has a name. That will settle a bit over time, but that feeling will probably never go completely away now that you know what it is. I felt like a freak for the first year after diagnosis, as if someone had painted AUTISTIC on my forehead, so strangers would know why I was so weird and awkward. I've gradually gotten back to a point where I don't really think about it all that much, but I am extremely aware of it when something happens that points up one of my autistic weaknesses, like being thrown into a situation that demands unexpected small talk.


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26 Dec 2010, 10:09 pm

The same thing happened to me, when I was first told that I'm HFA.


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