How do I get compliments?

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How do I get compliments?

No one says they hate me, but no one likes me either. I'm just there. I don't care what they think, but I really want to know why the hell there is virtually no one who will actually want to be my friend. No girls have ever(I'm 22) come on to me, only one guy has ever tried to be my friend, and the most people say about me is some random untrue observation about me. As for me, I think I look pretty attractive, and I'm very confident, and although I have AS I'm so reserved and agreeable it's hard to distinguish it from shyness(I'm very brave). Even if people are less likely to talk to me, why hasn't random chance ever fallen my way? I can't be that unlucky.

So I wonder if this is just me, or does everyone fell this way?

I don't get compliments either. I guess people hate me then. Although i was never really liked to begin with.

You say that you're a very confident guy and see yourself as attractive but how do you project those qualities to others. Believe it or not but girls are also "afraid" of seeking contact if you carry yourself a certain way. Are you kind to people? do you meet them with a light smile or frown? These little social signals play great part when it comes to creating a contact with others.
Girls often though that I was homosexual because of the way I dressed and the way I spoke to them. I was also very bad at picking up on flirting so my friend had to tell me that girls were interested.

It's all about how you present yourself to others.

try giving a few first. Chances are you'll get some in return.

I would say I'm kind to people, I don't really know how to smile but when I am around good people I might smile naturally. As for "these little social signals," I have actually made an effort to try to figure out what they all are and do them but it doesn't work, probably because I'm forcing it. In my mind I'm just a cool guy, but I think that other people think I'm so sure of myself that they could never compete with me. It makes no sense to me.

True, I'm not good at complimenting people, but when I do I guess I say it in a way that makes them, for some crazy reason, want to ignore me. Even my family.

I like your profile pic. Laharl is awesome!

Thanks for the compliment. I imagine myself as a significantly less evil version of Laharl.

I like to think of myself as a less annoying and more adorable version of Flonne.