almost died today, and 'i love you'

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so recently, i met this girl. she has a bf.
we hung out a lot. and from the begging, she had told me that i cant fall for her if this continues.

she has a boyfriend. who doesnt like me....for some jealous reason.
I like him though, hes a good guy.
her and I shared a night, where she modeled for me, and we shared a moment together. no contact. just all in the moment, the eyes, the lack of speech.
i havent seen her in person since.

tonight, I got into an accident. My car spun out, and i managed to save my life and my passengers by menuivering around another car, and past a pole.

the car hit a curb, my friends head went through the windshield, mine into the wheel, and our pal in the back was ok. mar car deployed airbags late, and broke the axel and oil pan the car.

we are all ok, im home now.
she and i were talking, and she told me ' i love you, i wouldnt know what to do if something happened"

weve talk about this before, i know she means as a friend, but what do you guys think?
she seemed intrested in trying to get me to break that promise i made to her a while back, but who know right?

I'm glad that you're alive.

Sounds as if you're her backup plan.

Bloody hell . Glad (and very surprised) to hear you're ok. What speed where you doing?

It sounds like she has a crush on you. I can't say whether you're her back-up plan or not, but it sounds as if her own feelings (and awareness of yours) are making her uncomfortable hanging around with you anymore. Putting oneself in temptation's way is never a good idea, even if you aren't the type to cheat.

Sounds like you guys maybe got a little too intimate (even if nothing technically happened) so out of guilt, she backed away. Her blurting out 'I love you' may just have been a shock reaction. She may have meant it on one level, but since she's made no effort to act on that love, it's clear that she's made (and is still making) the conscious choice to keep you as a platonic friend and both of you need to respect the boundaries for the friendship to last.

Eh, glad to hear you're OK, but I'm slightly saddened to think that you (or anyone else) still would want to live in this evil world.

Anyway, I wish I could say something in advice about the girl as to what I would do. Problem is, I would turn around and run away (metaphorically speaking anyway) if a girl who already had someone told me they had an interest in me, whether it be an "I love you" or otherwise. Personally, barring that I suddenly become an NT thanks to Divine Reward, I have virtually resigned myself to being alone, pending the day I can get a job which can give me enough of a cash flow to have at least an irregular opportunity to use prostitution (I don't think I have much chance with anyone either AS or NT, unless I can turn gay - and I cannot). So I'm sorry if I can't say anything useful to you, but at least be thankful you haven't got it as bad as others.

She has learnt to care more about you, because you almost died in that car accident. That, as far as I know, is what is known as an Epiphany.

wow, really interesting, she loves you!

Go for it!

"Jane" from years ago comes to mind for me here, and there were absolutely no similarities between what she had said and what I had "heard". This young woman is simply saying her world would hit a bump of some kind if something happened to you or to anyone else she considers a friend ... and that is the end of that.

I'm of the opinion that she meant it, but not romantically. There are other types of love besides romantic love.

Of course, since it's clear she cares about you and shouldn't be offended; you could try asking her what she meant. That's what I do with my friend when she says something that I have difficulty interpreting the meaning of.

she could have meant she loves you the way that you love a close friend or family member. id hope so anyway, seeing as she has a bf. i dont think shes using you as a backup plan or anything horrible like that, as others have suggested. sounds like she was just relieved you were ok and letting you know how much she cares? which im sure's a nice thing to know. i wouldnt risk losing someone who cares about you by trying to take things further and getting in the way of her relationship

...and the car was uninsured.

I would want to to have meant real love. but i know its friends love. deep down.
balls

@crion. lighten up friend.

I know that it's only as a friend, but, by some serendipitus chance, it could be love. I think it's sweet...glad you're alive.

a serendipitus chance would be...?