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Rosennoir
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29 Aug 2010, 11:23 pm

Not really so much at generally talking per se. My skill is speeches. But real-life isn't about giving speeches. Real-life is about interacting with others which we must all inevitably do.

But I'm bad at conversing. I can't hold a conversation very long even about politics; my life's passion, because I just don't know how to carry a conversation. I know how to type. Conversing is very hard and I don't know how to get better at it, ESPECIALLY since I need to get good at it in order for my fledgling business to succeed.

Any advice?



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30 Aug 2010, 2:01 am

Well...Moses got his brother to be his mouthpiece. It's an old technique, but may be just the thing. I've heard some people recommend books on how to make friends and influence people.

Other that that, though, I wanted to say I completely understand. I lecture like no one's business, but can't have a dinner party conversation to save my life--not one that makes people like me. Since understanding that this "weakness" was simply how I was, I've been a lot more self-assured and confident--even in social situations. Eating a GFCF diet has also cleared up some physical issues so that I can cope with my mental ones more easily. Too early to tell if these things are going to lead to better conversations, but it's been good so far.

Hope you find what works for you.


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30 Aug 2010, 3:01 am

pandorazmtbox wrote:
Well...Moses got his brother to be his mouthpiece. It's an old technique, but may be just the thing. I've heard some people recommend books on how to make friends and influence people.

Other that that, though, I wanted to say I completely understand. I lecture like no one's business, but can't have a dinner party conversation to save my life--not one that makes people like me. Since understanding that this "weakness" was simply how I was, I've been a lot more self-assured and confident--even in social situations. Eating a GFCF diet has also cleared up some physical issues so that I can cope with my mental ones more easily. Too early to tell if these things are going to lead to better conversations, but it's been good so far.

Hope you find what works for you.


Thanks!

I've learned another thing about myself.

People begin to argue with me on politics for example. When I ask THEM the questions, finally, catch THEM in hypocrisy, have THEM backed into a corner, they can no longer answer my questions as if God had proclaimed them invulnerable to questioning. It pisses me off so much. When you finally reveal that the Emperor really has no clothes, he runs and hides like the snake he is. I could make excellent rhetorical use of this type of person. But now's not the time for that...

People who just start arguments and not finish them absolutely ENRAGE me. I'll stay up all night to finish an argument. But don't say something and then walk away. I mean.......