Family problems and other things: mother in an institution

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I'm really sad. My mother called public safety at my college yesterday and told them that I'd been kidnapped. They called my and I told them that she'd called them from an mental institution. She has paranoid schizophrenia and recently my father and grandmother had her hospitalized again and she calls me at least 10 times a day. She is now so bad that they said they will not even consider letting her out for 6 months to a year and my father is all alone.

On top of that, I'm again struggling to work with others at work. I work as a graphic designer(mostly webprogramming) and I'm having a tough time with all the random things being inserted into my schedule. I make lists with checkboxes to keep projects in order, however people keep coming to me with last minute projects and I keep forgetting about them due to my already specified order. Then everyone hates me because I didn't work on their project. I cried at work today because I felt like everyone was judging my performance and even though my co-workers said I was doing a great job, I still felt like crap. How do people forget about failures?! I feel like I always pick apart my failures and even try to solve them after the fact. I spent nearly an hour trying to figure out how I could have better put together a leaflet after it had already gone out and I feel like it completely upset my creativity. If anyone has any suggestions about what I should do about all these random projects being inserted last minute(this project was given to me yesterday when I only had work for 3 hours and due this afternoon). Should I explain that routine being broken is very, very hard for me?

sorry you're having a rough time.
my mother was in and out of lockups due to bi-polar, very severe, with several half-way suicide attempts. i was not able to cope due to many circumstances and had a very tough time. what else can i say.....other than i know where you're coming from. i was under 10 when these things occurred. somethings there are no escape from.

i could never work well with others myself. i was lucky enough to get an assignment that meant lots of 2 day travel and solo work environment. made a world of difference. i survived. are you in a position to arrange to have less interaction with others, a different position maybe? do the humans you work for know you have aspergers? maybe they would be willing to work with you to find the best position for you. it's tough being on the spectrum in a high stress job. wish i had more to offer.

good luck.

I'm sorry that you're having a rough time. I wish you and your family the very best, and I hope that things will get better, for all of you.

Hi, I'm a perfectionist too and worry way too much about all my mistakes and lose sleep over the smallest things and understand well how hard that is. If the workload is too much, it makes sense to say something to someone rather than get bogged down deeper with everything. I hope you can get some rest soon and relief from what you're experiencing.

i'd say yes, talk to them about the random schedule changes getting to you. the last thing you need right now is work stress makig things worse. your coping skills must totally be suffering from the issues going on.

my mother was insitutionalized for several months when i was an infant, and again maybe 5 times over the last ten years. she doesn't understand why i can't allow myself to get close to her anymore.