Things other people do give ma anxiety attacks; OCD?

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Sometimes when I'm talking to people on reading post by people online & I find out things about em that happened in their past or certain things they do; I get very nervous for a bit & give myself stomach problems. Things I hear about with others that do NOT involve me at all or affect me in any way what so ever can cause me to have anxiety issues. Like I can be browsing post here & I read a post about how someone got very drunk the night before & ended up in some trouble; I get nervous. Or a person can be telling about how they almost attempted suicide years ago & I get anxiety even thou the person is fine about things now. When I get nervous like that I tend to get kind of obsessive & I start trying to look at the person's previous post & things if it's online & it makes me more nervous. I know it's kinda stalkerish & I should not be doing it because there is absolutely nothing I can do about things at all & I barely even know the people sometimes but I can not help it. Does anyone have any ideas as to why I get like this or have any suggestions about how I can stop getting nervous about others

it's your brand of "empathy". it's not that AS people do possess this "trait" (aside - psychopaths and sociopaths DO NOT).
if I am indeed ADD with AS characteristics, then I can have any typical AS traits that vary on a continuum. I believe more NT's think in black and white more so that people like me who question WHY - I have always had a different and unique view of the world which used to "bother" me but now I see it as an absolute GIFT. For me, my "empathy" factor is fine tuned to the point of intrusive and irritating at times, but I always have good intentions. Try to see your perceptions as insightful gifts rather than anxiety, a subject with which I am ALL TOO familiar.

When I think about this some more I think anxiety issues are a main factor for lots of my problems. I thought that the mental breakdown I had years ago was caused by being codependent on a girl but now I'm starting to think it was sever anxiety issues. I started worrying about things with her that I should not of been worrying about. I started to think things were going on that were not & I started having sleeping problems because I was constantly worrying about her. I got very upset over all my worrying & took things out on her that I shouldn't of & after we quit being friends because I couldn't deal with it; I found out she did something kind of dangerous & I got so worked up I slashed myself. I get very nervous about things in general that do not involve others as well. There were some times when I wasn't quite sure if I was having auditory hallucinations or delusions & I thought it was psychotic depression but now I think that may of been sever anxiety as well. I think anxiety issues are part of the rezone why I'm so dependent. I am afraid to do certain things because of OCD type issues. It takes me a long time to do certain task that most people can do very fast because I am very picky about doing it rite. I may not feel very nervous when I do things but I think I do deep down but am not aware of it. I think anxiety issues may also be the rezone why I feel unreal when I am around others offline(I made a post about that a couple days ago in social skills & friends section)

For me I think a combination of growing older, some neurological issues & finding the right medication, has really made a difference. One day I was sitting with my (then) lover and listening to him go on about his day of work, and as always I was just freaking out inside the whole time he talked.... trying to analyze every word he said, in terms of how it would affect me. Mainly because he was a big obsession of mine, who had dumped me previously, which I thought was suddenly and random, for no reason.

Anyway, while he was telling me the details of how he had ripped apart a tractor to fix, just then it suddenly occurred to me that it didn't really matter at all what happened, say if he decided to turn his back on me and run off with his assistant (who was a woman).... that, even if he was going to reject me for her (which was pretty far-fetched) that I would get over it and be stronger for it. It was like a mantle of peace & relief was dropped over my shoulders. It really did happen in a sudden, just like that.

Anxiety is horrible though. I still get it, just not to the same extent. Or maybe more than I realize?

That's not an anxiety attack. Anxiety attacks make people pass out, etc.

Anyway, people with AS have minds like children, very sensitive and impressionable, and the internet is full of gloom and negativity. If reading people's posts makes you feel bad then just don't read them. Spend your time doing things that actually make you feel good. I know it's difficult to break the habit, but once you get going reading negative stuff will get quite repellant, and you'll wonder why you ever wanted to read that kind of stuff in the first place.

There is nothing "wrong" with your per se, you just need to protect yourself better because you are more receptive to and conscious of negative influences than others.

To get over this takes time and you need to grow and mature, build an inner strength such that other people can't drag you down so easily. The first step is to spend your time doing thats that lift you up instead of dragging you down.

If something someone says makes you nervous just think "it's ok", and look for the bright side. If someone says they tried to commit suicide, think about how great it is that they are doing better now, it's helpful to say something out loud, such a physical action helps reprogram your mind to react to such things more positively. If someone has a current problem, think about how strong and brave they are being in facing such a problem. Always look for a positive way of looking at a situation.

I'm pretty sure it's anxiety because I start feeling very nervous & it can cause me to have major stomach problems sometimes & I can get very obsessive for a bit. I was diagnosed with a few anxiety issues. OCD, Obsessive Compulsive Personality, Social Anxiety, & Post Truant Stress Disorder,
I can get those anxiety issues when people aren't even talking about bad or dangerous stuff & it's not only post online that cause me to get like that. It's not consistent either because some things usually don't affect me but then they suddenly do. I also notice it mostly seems to involve women posters when it happens online & they tend to be women who at some point may of thought I might actually had a chance with or that I might would be interested in em; even if I only thought that for a couple seconds. I think there's some starker type elements to this as well

There's something else occasionally that kinda scares me. I lost contact with that girl years ago but I occasionally view/stalk her profile on a site & I think about trying to contact her again. As soon as I check her pro I start having anxiety & usually end up having stomach problems. I know contacting her is the last thing I should ever do because absolutely NO good could come from it. It would bring back some very painful emotions & it would cause me to have another breakdown & I'd probably do alot worse than slash my arm. These thoughts do not happen much & do not last long but I do NOT want to think about this at all. It scares me & causes anxiety & stomach problems. I wish I could completely forget & never think about this again.
I've had OCD type addiction to porn before her. I sometimes still have issues where I download stuff that I know I will never use or I DL something that I know I will find gross & not enjoy.
All this stuff sounds like it could be OCD to me but I suspect their could be more going on. The anxiety issues involving others could be related to some kind of empathy thing as others here have suggested. It's possible that some stuff could be related to some other kind of anxiety disorders or emotional things as well. I don't have major issues often; I'm fairly fine for the most part & I sometimes start thinking that the major problems have past but then I have these brief episodes with anxiety; that's what worries me. I was seeing docs & taking meds for 5 years & I believe that I'm much better off without that rite now. Does anyone have any suggestions/tips