Missing my ex-boyfriend. Need online hugs.

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anneurysm
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28 Sep 2010, 11:12 am

My ex boyfriend and I are really good friends now, but he was the truly the best boyfriend ever, and one of the most compassionate and genuine people I have ever met. We shared so much and had so much fun together. We still do as friends, but it's just so hard as I still have feelings for him. We broke up as he needed to figure himself out and he decided that he didn't want a girlfriend or to see anyone in that way...and hes kept to his word as he hasnt been with anyone else. Plus, he only sees me as a good friend. It made things worse for me though, because now that I have experienced a fufilling relationship, I would give anything to be in one again. If it was up to me, I'd still be with him, but of course, it isn't.

We are talking online right now about how I hate how everything has changed. He gets me so well and separates my personhood from my anxieties. He has NVLD, and as such can relate to me so much. He's being very sweet and supportive as always, but at the same time, I know that it will be hard to find someone else that I love that much...and who gets me as much as he does.

I need a hug.


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28 Sep 2010, 11:36 am

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28 Sep 2010, 12:12 pm

Sending some more hugs and hoping you'll feel better soon.



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28 Sep 2010, 12:57 pm

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28 Sep 2010, 2:33 pm

Here's a hug. :O)


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28 Sep 2010, 2:35 pm

I feel something similar for my ex-girlfriend.

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28 Sep 2010, 3:22 pm

*hug*. Maybe you should take a small break from each other, just until you get over the attraction?



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28 Sep 2010, 4:14 pm

Science_Guy wrote:
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what he said.



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28 Sep 2010, 8:20 pm

I know exactly what this feels like.
Likewise, my ex girlfriend was truly someone special, and I love her.

*HUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUG*

I do hope you feel well at the moment. :) ^^ Everything will get better.

You have my support, anneurysm. :)


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28 Sep 2010, 8:22 pm

*hugs*

I can relate...

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28 Sep 2010, 8:59 pm

*online hug*



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29 Sep 2010, 2:15 am

*Gives awkward hug*

Im glad you are still talking to him and you know why you broke up(sometimes you have to try figure an explanation yourself and that sucks).


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29 Sep 2010, 3:13 am

((((((((((Ann))))))))))))


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29 Sep 2010, 6:50 pm

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30 Sep 2010, 9:03 am

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30 Sep 2010, 11:02 pm

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