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Regarding my other thread:

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Thank you guys for the warm support. Yes everyone knows he's an alcholic including his family but they think it's our fault. They're the proper "christian" bunch who think my sister ought to resolve the issue by helping him even though all of us have tried. I won't go into details since you'd have to be there to see it.

My oldest niece's birthday passed and so will my second one for the first time. She was crying on the phone about why we couldn't be with her and I didn't know how to tell her. My oldest niece wonders why we lied to her. My whole family told her that the separation between my sister and her father were nothing permanent and that everything would be alright. She now knows and talks about how afraid she is with him. My sister FINALLY got papers signed over to the judge. It's been a very long battle but she thinks she'll soon get custody of the kids. However it is still going to be a while before we get them.

I feel like I should've done better as an aunt. My oldest niece always looked up to me wich is awful because I set just as a bad example. I can't seem to get a grip with reality and I've lost so many important friends b/c of it. I don't come here to be felt sorry for just to vent. I really have no real people to talk to. All my life I always felt trapped and helpless within myself. I know I'm not powerless but I still feel like I am. Does that make sense to anyone?

Well I don't expect it to and I think I'm at a really low point at my life now.

It's good to hear your sister got her papers to the judge. I hope things work out.

You can't blame yourself for things you can't control. He did the actions and he is to blame. You're doing what you can realistically do by supporting your sister and trying to calm your nieces.

Do your feelings of helplessness make sense? yes. We all wish there was more we could do to better our world, but the reality is that most of it beyond our reach to affect. I feel trapped and helpless in my situation in life quite often, especially this year... I'm not expecting it to change anytime soon. I just keep trying for little changes that I can affect while i have to willpower to do so.

((((((((((((MissConstrue)))))))))) I doubt that you have been a bad aunt. Just because you have some problems doesnt mean that you dont love those children. I believe you have done the best you could by them, and I am sure they will realise that. I hope your sister has the best of luck with getting back custody. I will be thinking of you and your family.

Sending hugs and wishing all the best. Hope things get better for you soon. *hugs*