Is it really wrong?

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A few months ago I started dating someone, his name is Louis. He's not Autist, but I thank life for putting him on my way. He's really understanding, caring and supporting. But a few months ago, too, before we dated (We went through a lot before we could properly communicate) we started having sex. Him at first did not get a good erection because of a few reasons that have to do with me and not himself alone. But once it worked, we didn't stop. And we haven't stopped.
This has not changed but for good, because our communication is better, and although we're still discovering sex, it's a pretty part of our life because I feel it's not only teenage lust, it's indeed an expression of love. And with this, we've become closer.
So I often sleep with him, in his house. I'm not very talkative unless it's with him, so his family doesn't know about mine. But I don't know how they find the fact that we sleep together being students and not living together. We both still live with our parents.
On the other note, my family has marked me as the black sheep. To them, I am a slut, and when Louis comes to my house they treat him very poisonous. I hate that, he's the only person I can properly talk to and the only one that can keep up with me and they push him away.
When there are family reunions, they treat us both like s**t. But I can't go away because I haven't finished college, and I feel I couldn't keep up with finding me a job. He works but doesn't get enough money as to pay us a house, and his parents think we're too young to decide to live together.
It's the only thing I can enjoy in life, and they're destroying it along with me. It should be noted that I live within a disfunctional family, so I don't actually get the therapy I should and much less the understanding. On the contrary...
Last year my uncle tried to abuse me. They didn't tell him he had to go away, or to pay anything. No, he just said sorry and now everyone pretends nothing happened. Every time I'm near a single one of them it feels like I'm being abandoned again, so I just try to run back to Louis.
Please tell me what I should do.

tl;dr - I have a nice, understanding boyfriend and my dysfunctional family don't support me and push him away. What should I do?

Finish college and then move away and try to find a good job.

P.S. TMI on the intimate details.

I am glad that you have a person that you care about who cares for you in the middle of the dysfunction of your family. I am sorry that it has to be how it is for you right now. I agree that finishing school and getting a job sounds like a good idea, but if things become too difficult at home, perhaps there are social support services that could assist you in transitioning out of your home and into a better environment. Sometimes the only way to deal with blood relatives is to get away from them. If you can hold out until school is done, it would be easier financially, but if it is destroying you emotionally, you might want to look into other options like income based housing, government programs, whatever your area provides, while you get on your feet. In the meantime, keep on relying on your partner for support. It is good that you have him. I wish you well.

You might later look back and say you had "made some bad choices", and I suspect that kind of concern represents the "wrong" certain others in your life are concerned about now.