I am lonely - I think I want a partner.

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Times are hard - I am going through some emotional problems and still suffering from heartbreak from my last relationship.

My mind is doing some scary stuff and making me feel bad.

I have few opportunities to get out of the house and I rarely get to improving and working on my skills.

I sometimes just feel like I'm rotting away with few prospects going for me.

At times, when I finally get round to doing productive work, I feel so lonely still and it might make motivation difficult.

The complex things I analyze heavily messes with my wellbeing.

I keep going to bed at 5am plus, which isn't healthy.

I reminisce how much nicer I think Denver is (my ex girlfriend is from Denver) than Telford.

There are a lot of issues and potential issues, and I get depressed very easily.

It seems I question things that make me paranoid, that probably aren't even part of reality, such as 'Is nature trying to shun me? Did she think I'm not good enough for her?'
I feel as though it's just a pointless waste of time that she was with me for two years.

I am sick and tired of people showing disloyalty and leaving people too easily.

I feel bored, shunned, and depressed.

I often crave that emotional support in a romantic sense because I don't feel I can cope with myself, and I feel threatened by the world quite often.

Sorry you're down in the dumps again.

Sorry to hear that.

(((Hugs)))

I'm kind of in the same boat as well.

hartzofspace: Thank you for the concern.
MissConstrue: Thank you for the concern. I do hope everything becomes easier for you. *Hug*

*hugs*

I have a lot of the same issues going on... Just look at my avatar...somehow trying to make light of it doesn't really help much...

~Kate

Sorry to hear that from you. Hope that you feel better.

Me too, man. Me too.

There was this Puerto Rican guy I use to work with gave me some good advice. He told me I had no right to b***h and complain about not having a girlfriend if I am not at least talking to three to five new women a day. You ask 100 women who are in your league at least one of them will go out with you. This guy was butt ugly, but I watched him talk to every waitress in the resteraunt one night (12 in all) he got the phone numbers of three of them and one went out with him after work that night. Like he told me the worst thing they could is say no or laugh at you. If they laugh at you odds are she was an as*hole to begin with and she is not worth knowing and you are better off not knowing trash like that .

I can sympathise with you quite a lot, Samtoo.

Were we brothers-in-arms on the same side of some war in a past life!? (Just an expression, mind you...) That's exactly how I'm feeling right now, in fact I have felt that way since the final breakup I had with a certain girl (name withheld to protect the then-heartbroken) back in January this year. We didn't even end up having sexual relations either, but sometimes evil things happen to us - in my case, her so-called 'best friend' talked me into cheating on her two years back, a most shameful event for me in my view and the second worst way I could have imagined my virginity being lost in hindsight - the girl I wronged like that did forgive me after a relationship or two of hers while we were apart, but I was too far gone with guilt to contemplate a successful relationship with that same girl I wronged, even if she had forgiven me, so I let her go.

I know it ain't likely to happen again anytime soon, and I never wanted a second chance with the girl that forgave me either, but I just wish I could have a second chance at merely being faithful to another even if it is a new love, just to set things right in my mind at least. I'm not the same person I was when I cheated, I've travelled a long way maturity-wise since then, and I would sooner be tortured to death than let myself cheat on another again or cause someone to do the same. Yes, I have sinned in the manner of disloyalty you described, but I regret it because it was evil, and I suffered and continue to suffer for it. I just hope that whoever is watching out for me will one day see that I've atoned enough to have a second chance with someone new.

However, I will say one caveat: I'd probably not want a borderline-personality-disordered self-harmer again, like my aforementioned ex-girlfriend - the one I betrayed - though.

I think the major restriction on me about this though (Asperger Syndrome aside) is that I am more unlike than like the other White Australians in the areas I dwell in, in terms of even a cultural perspective, despite my being White Australian by birth; I have felt more in common with, say, certain European or Asian migrants, than I have with my own race. The ex-girlfriend I mentioned was an exception to the "White Aussie = Bogan" principle that seems to be throughout Regional Australia (which Gippsland, my home district, is part of), but she was an exception that sadly proves (by-and-large) the rule. I have often noted to myself and also observed of myself that I have been able to do better in socialising with at least certain acquaintances of mine of Chinese heritage (which may - or may not - transfer to other Asians in the area) - than my fellow white Australians, I just seem to be more at ease with them. It probably has something to do with my school days - I was bullied virtually non-stop by most students in my school, but a group of Japanese exchange students who were there briefly tended to treat me like a human as opposed to a verbal punching bag. However, this hasn't done anything for or against my getting another, and Caucasian types who I have done better with (mostly European Union types) are hard to come by out here, so...

Sorry for attention-hogging, but I needed to vent...