Jealousy

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Ok, is this wrong to be jealous?
(This goes out to all teenage girls/boys with little brothers and sisters)

When I was their age, I didn't get half as many clothes, and now that I am finally developing a college sense of fashion (seeing as I am about to go there) they got clothes exactly like mine, making me feel like a 13 year old.

My mom said that she spent that much on my college applications, but she'll probably spend more money on theirs.

They got a phone @13, mine.
I got a phone @16, the spare.

They will probably get to drive, like normal people, at 16.
Meanwhile, I am a senior in high school, and I am not allowed to drive or get a permit.

They get to do more things than me.

I mean heck!
My older brother waited until he was 17 to get a facebook, the same age I got mine.
My sisters, they got it at 12.
Thats right, too young, and they still got to break the rules.

Also, my mom thinks they are so mature, and that is crap.
(they are twins)
One of them is semi-mature, and is the same as a normal 13-year-old.
The other one acts like a 5-year-old, and my mom calls her mature just because she can get good grades in junior high (which is WAYYY harder than high school... [hint the sarcasm]).

I know I should be all mature and ready for college, but I just want to know if I am the only one who feels this way.

Anyone???

I have two siblings, and my mom always settled this argument by making these two observations:

1) Yes, when your younger, you do get to do things at a younger age, and you often have more stuff because of hand-me-downs.

2) On the other hand, when you're older, you get to do everything first. All of your experiences are a first in the family: being the first to get a cell phone, the first to go to college. Your younger siblings rarely get to do something you haven't done already. Also, you are more likely to get "new" stuff. When you outgrow your clothes, you get new ones because their aren't any hand-me-downs. Your younger siblings may have more stuff, but it often belonged to you first. They may struggle with feeling like what they have isn't really "theirs" because it's used.

Hope that helps!

Why aren't you allowed to drive?

Of course I'm jealous. My mom acts like I have it better because I have a car and my 17 year old brother doesn't. Wrong, he wouldn't take care of a car if he had it, I spent nearly $300 fixing my car up when I first got it and over the years I've spent thousands on it. In the mean time she pays for his phone. I paid for and built my own computers since I was 14, my mom buys him apple laptops while he bums the PC off my younger brother because his macs won't play games. He treats her like s**t (yelling at her over the dumbest s**t) and then she yells at me because nobody in this house respects her, and then she goes back to kissing his ass.

[quote="Kaspie"]) "On the other hand, when you're older, you get to do everything first."
-except I am not the oldest, my brother is

[quote="Kaspie"]"All of your experiences are a first in the family: being the first to get a cell phone"
-brother

[quote="Kaspie"]"first to go to college."
-me (because he is on a mission)

[quote="Kaspie"]"Your younger siblings rarely get to do something you haven't done already."
-not true, they have done plenty more

[quote="Kaspie"]"Also, you are more likely to get "new" stuff."
-they get new stuff, and more of it

[quote="Kaspie"]"Your younger siblings may have more stuff, but it often belonged to you first."
-all of theirs is theirs, and mine is mine

@ Chronos
I am not allowed to drive because my brother didn't drive until he was a senior, and I am WAYYYY less responsible than my brother (even though I get straight A's), yet my sisters will probably get to drive because they are WAYYYY more responsible than my brother was, and I am.

(I blame their misconceptions on the fact that I was not good with words a few years back, and both my brothers and my little sisters teased me with words, and I did NOT know how to react except without violence or tantrums -think a junior high-, now I am getting better at it, except that labeled me as impulsive, another reason my parents DON'T want me behind the wheel)

@ piston head, that does suck, good thing you were given the independence to do those things...
I am in a really sour mood

I'm sorry, I misread your post and thought you were the oldest. (My mom's advice was for my older & younger siblings. -- Also, we were a hand-me-down family. The "new stuff, and more of it" doesn't sound fair at all.) I'm a middle child too, and I understand where you're coming from; however, I still think the general idea of focusing on the pros of your position, rather than the cons, is helpful.

Are there any reasons why you are glad you are a middle child, rather than the oldest or the youngest?