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I've only told my parents about AS, but I'm a bit worried that a woman I've become good friends with over the last few months might have worked it out- she mentioned she'd been reading a book about AS and thought I'd enjoy it, but didn't say why. I don't really want her to know because I work with her and don't want people at work finding out in case it stops me from getting a full time job at the school I work in. Maybe it was just a coincidence? I'm hoping she was just mentioning the book in case I work with children at school who have AS. She's one of the only people apart from my mum that I can talk to on the phone, or meet up with, without feeling really self-conscious and that she'll think I'm strange, so I don't want to lose her friendship, but at the same time I'm worried I'm getting to 'close' or too attached to her when she probably just thinks of me as someone she works with. Not sure what to do/think!

Seems like she'd have no problem with you having AS.
I think you should tell her - it's nice to have someone to confide in, and the book thing suggests she'd be understanding and helpful.

That comment about the book sounds like a none-too-subtle hint that you can talk to her about AS if you want. The idea is to get the message across without risking offense - if she says "I think you have AS" and you don't, you might get angry with her, but you can't get angry about her mentioning a book.

I think you should take a risk and talk to her, she's trying to be friendly.

Thanks for the advice . I think she probably would understand, and if I didn't know her through work I'd probably tell her because it would be nice to be able to talk to someone other than my parents about it, but I don't want it to come up at work because I'm applying to be a full time teacher and it might affect the way other teachers see me. If it comes up again I might tell her though and ask her not to mention it at school, she is really nice and I think she'd understand.